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Life & Events > Relationships > Bits and Pieces
 

Bits and Pieces

There's really not much to write about--just small items of little interest.
I finally finished painting the trim of my 22 house windows and doors. It's sort of a brick red matching the roof color. I like it. And I'm proud I can still climb 25 feet up and down a ladder!
The reason I say that is my sister called me last night with a plea of "help". She was in the middle of a "match.com" date and needed an excuse to get out. I was her "emergency". She later said the man was 66, but all humped over and barely able to walk--nothing like his profile description. He could never climb a ladder. Plus, he was a bore. She's 0 for 2 on two dates.
Speaking of which, I guess I'm going to "cool it" with Lynn for now. She's under much stress and a bit of depression over trying to sell her magazine (of which she publishes) and being in major debt from it. So I'm back "in the market" again, although, after 3 dates, I'm reconsidering remaining a social "hermit". I haven't decided my course of action (or inaction). Dating shouldn't be stressful.

I've also been thinking about quitting the blogging scene. As most of you know, I usually speak my mind with my own opinions, be it politics or religion or whatever. I have stepped on toes. I've tried to be respectful of other opinions as I would hope others would be of mine. That's not always the case. Perhaps I invite criticism. Nonetheless, it hurts. My mother would remind me, "If you can't say something good, say nothing at all." Admittedly, I don't always follow the rules and need an occassional admonishment. But I try to be open-minded and sympathetic in my comments to others.
Ms. Troutbend hit the nail on the head the other day with her post on "mybloggers world". It hardly seems worth the effort to spend time writing to a handful of dedicated bloggers. Yet, it's rewarding to post an article about a book ("The Social Animal"), and have so many readers follow up by reading it. So, I'm torn. For now, I'll continue. I'm not one to quit on my "family". I'm just a wee bit frustrated.

Have a delightful weekend, wherever you may be.

posted on Aug 27, 2011 5:29 AM ()

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I'd miss you. Too many of my "friends" have disappeared, both real life and cyber life.
comment by crazylife on Aug 29, 2011 10:24 PM ()
I'll do my best but I will be away till the end of September, so will write when I get back. I'm leaving my laptop at home!
comment by shelc on Aug 29, 2011 9:48 AM ()
That would be a shame if you left, I don't read very many blogs even here and yours is friendly and colorful. It is so satisfying to read about the country, about plants and farming, when the internet otherwise gives me this daily barrage of political, financial and horrible news that I feel compelled to read.
comment by drmaus on Aug 29, 2011 12:19 AM ()
I appreciate your positive reinforcement. I enjoy writing. It's almost like a journal. But it's the critical remarks I get about certain things that irritate me. I'm hoping my "say something nice or don't say anything at all" comment struck a nerve with some of my readers. For now, I'll continue. Thanks again.
reply by solitaire on Aug 29, 2011 4:10 AM ()
Randy, don't be so hurt by criticism. Being in love is stressful and dating
is stressful too. W
e all need a lot of social connections. Can't you just
be a friend to this woman and keep e mailing and seeing her once in a while.
Be upfront and tell her you just want to be friends.
comment by elderjane on Aug 28, 2011 5:25 AM ()
Jeri, it's easy to say "don't be hurt by criticisms" (and I might add, "rejections"). But feelings are neither right or wrong-- they just are. I can't help feeling hurt (or angry or upset...). I'll be okay. Just a snag in my otherwise wonderful life. Go with the flow.
reply by solitaire on Aug 28, 2011 5:36 AM ()
Don't go! For the record, I also requested "Social Animal" and IT'S IN! I've gotta go pick it up on Monday.
comment by jerms on Aug 27, 2011 7:38 PM ()
Knowing you've stuck with us "liberals" is affirmation that we must be doing something right. For the most part, we recognize and accept our differences, and don't put others down (too much). That's important to me. I hope you'll enjoy the book.
reply by solitaire on Aug 28, 2011 5:32 AM ()
I have just read all the comments. These should do ya.
comment by tealstar on Aug 27, 2011 7:32 PM ()
We give you a hard time sometimes, but don't mean to hurt your tender feelings! You are such an important part of our MyBloggers family.
comment by troutbend on Aug 27, 2011 5:49 PM ()
I've always been an easy mark for some reason. I bring it on myself. It must be the Jack Benny in me. When you "put me down", I know from where it's coming (because I know you). It's from those who don't know me. (Did you ever read Dottie's reply to my "Really" post?) Ouch!
reply by solitaire on Aug 28, 2011 5:28 AM ()
Well, I hope you hang around and keep posting. MyBloggers is the best blog family there is! Of course you'll do what you want, and maybe you're just having a spell of frustration, or or need to take a little break, or shake up your routine, or need us to tell you we like you and what you write — so here's a bouquet of affirmation! Hang in there!
comment by marta on Aug 27, 2011 5:26 PM ()
I didn't write what I did for sympathy. But I like the encouragement. So for now, I'm still posting. However, being I'm sensitive to critical remarks, it may be short-lived. Thanks for the support.
reply by solitaire on Aug 28, 2011 5:23 AM ()
I think you should stay with us as well. You are a regular poster! We need ya!
comment by kristilyn3 on Aug 27, 2011 1:20 PM ()
Thanks. This wouldn't be much of a blog site if people didn't post something--interesting or not!
reply by solitaire on Aug 28, 2011 5:19 AM ()
Randy, I'll bet more people than you think are reading your posts. Have you checked Google recently under your MyBloggers handle? Just through Aug. 11 of this month, I already had 5,604 visits this month. Google and Yahoo run their google bots over my subject matter a couple of times a month, select a post they like and put it out on the world wide web.
comment by redimpala on Aug 27, 2011 12:57 PM ()
First google your name; see what happens. Then try googling the title of one of your posts.
reply by redimpala on Aug 28, 2011 5:51 AM ()
We're on google? I had no idea. I'll have to check it out. Would I be under "Solitaire" or what? That's really sort of scary. I may have to be careful of what I say about my kin!
reply by solitaire on Aug 28, 2011 5:18 AM ()
Please don't go. I for one would miss your sensible, down to earth articles terribly.
comment by nittineedles on Aug 27, 2011 12:10 PM ()
For you, Marge, I'll hang on. Thanks for the support.
reply by solitaire on Aug 28, 2011 5:15 AM ()
'I guess I'm going to "cool it" with Lynn for now'--mmmmm--that's sort of "I quit" before you get fired!!
Randy, young or old dating is stressful--it is part of the drill.
hardly seems worth the effort to spend time writing to a handful of dedicated bloggers.' What are we ? Chopped Liver? We are the caviar of readers of your post.
So you step on a few toes--they yell ouch and keep reading.
As a writer I would rather have 2 faithful readers--even those who tell me what they feel versus what I say--than have many who don't care, don't react to what you say like other blogging sites.
Besides if you stop blogging I WILL put a hex on all fruits and vegetables you try to grow--be careful as Mother Nature is on MY side!
comment by greatmartin on Aug 27, 2011 8:13 AM ()
I appreciate your concern. I need to shake off the negativity that invades my brain every so often. And I certainly don't need a hex on my garden! Weeds and bugs (and coons) are bad enough! Thanks Martin.
reply by solitaire on Aug 28, 2011 5:14 AM ()
Stick with us, Randy.
comment by jondude on Aug 27, 2011 7:21 AM ()
I'll try. Perhaps my New England vacation in a month will help.
reply by solitaire on Aug 28, 2011 5:10 AM ()
I hope you don't stop blogging. You would be missed by a lot of people. As far as stepping on toes... in real life people inadvertently offend each other once in a while. I know I offended you with my comment the other day and I don't like offending others either- especially not people I like. I hardly know what to say- except that I hope you do continue to blog. I would miss you.
comment by dragonflyby on Aug 27, 2011 7:19 AM ()
I must admit, I had you in mind when I posted this. I tried to temper my statement with the thought of the old "He who lives in glass house..." saying. I also thought of my raccoon poisoning blog that invoked the wrath of many animal lovers. Free expression comes with its drawbacks. I need to grow a thicker skin!
reply by solitaire on Aug 28, 2011 5:09 AM ()
Not sure who is the person there.Look like some interest to you?
Yea,I have been saying that to myself in quitting the blogging scene.
I take a break in between.Noticed that a lot here not getting much comment which indicate not too many are reading the blog.
Are we a bore?not sure,if so?what do they want.
They like to hear something of interest.Fine,but how long does it last.
You can write a few articles that are very interesting and then we can write that are boring.So what do we do?not sure but the best that you know how.Sorry,about Lynn and back on the dating game.
Maybe someone from Maine or NH may fill the void?
comment by fredo on Aug 27, 2011 7:12 AM ()
Hopefully, you and I can discuss this subject when (not if) we meet. Thanks for the reply.
reply by solitaire on Aug 28, 2011 5:04 AM ()
Hi Solitaire,
Don't give up your writing. I have just joined and it was your bog that caught my eye. I am new to this sort of thing and maybe you can give me a few pointers. I will tell you a little bit about myself. I was born in Rhodesia (now Zimbabwe) and imigrated to South Africa in '82. I lived in Joburg for 20 years and after my divorse, I moved to the Western Cape (about an hours drive from Cape Town. I live in a little town called Villiersdorp and I feel that i could have a goldmine of topics to write about......small town idiosyncrasies and all that goes with small town living! It is a beautifull part of the Cape. We are surrounded by mountains and fruit farms and certain varietys of apple and pear trees are in full bloom at the moment. I think it might rival your little patch of paradise.
Another thing, don't give up on the dating scene. Like you I am also single and I love it!!! Maybe you and I could date.......the distance is perfect. I like the idea of being on different continants.

Bye for now and look forward to hearing from you.
Shelc
comment by shelc on Aug 27, 2011 6:19 AM ()
Thank you, Sheila. New "blood" is always welcome here at mybloggers. I'm eager to read about happenings in S.Africa. Post something soon. Perhaps you will keep me from leaving!
reply by solitaire on Aug 28, 2011 5:01 AM ()

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