I'm a grandfather three times over. Two grandchildren live far away (Honduras). I'm a miserable grandparent to them because we're seldom in contact. I recognize their birthdays via email, but that's about it. They hardly know me (They're 8 and 5).

On the other hand, I'm working very hard to be known to my grandson (11 mo. old) who lives 40' away. I've seen him twice in three days over the weekend. I have the priviledge of baby sitting him this coming Saturday for 6 hours.

Bonding with a grandchild is very important. It's not toys and clothes, but time and effort. He won't understand who I am for a few more years, but he'll gather the importance of "Granddad" as time goes forward.

I only had one grandfather in my life (one died when my mother was 6). My Dad's dad wasn't particularly loving, but he did give me attention in his own way. I have fond memories of him and have learned what to do and not to do as a grandparent. The same is true with my own father and his "methods" with my children.

I'm looking forward to playing a role in my grandson's life. I should start making a list of things to do with him. I'd like to live long enough to watch him become a college graduate.
And, I'd like him to remember his loving grandfather.