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Stressful Week

It's been a long and stressful week for me. I wasn't going to write about it, but my life is an open book for my friends in MyBloggersland.

I worked hard all year to prepare for the Senior League Golf Tournament, hoping to finally win my second championship (after 8 years). I was very nervous, and it showed. But I won (over 80 others).

However, because we were told to "take a cart to speed up play", I was, in effect, disqualified by the "rules committee" because I walked most of the time (with golf bag strapped on to a rented cart driven by another golfer). Long story short, I protested and defended myself, but to no avail.

I like to walk--I play better--it's more "professional"--I didn't slow play. Last year I drove the cart while another player walked (nothing was said about that). Plus nobody warned me I was "breaking the rules".

Whether there was an ulterior motive, or I was to be made an "example", I don't know. I was told I "disrespected the rules" by walking.

Anyway, I've been upset about the whole matter ever since. I feel humiliated and embarrassed, and naturally, despondant. I can't stop thinking about what happened and what next steps I should take. I know I'm quitting the golf league and the Lions Club (since all 5 committee members are in it--they're a clique). I can't bear the thought of facing any of them--very uncomfortable. One is my neighbor Ken, a friend for 33 years!

Anyway, life goes on. I'm babysitting my grandson later today. I'll like that. I need the distraction.

posted on Sept 11, 2010 5:43 AM ()

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Just do what yourself feel is right..... Bit childish this whole situation btw.
comment by itsjustme on Sept 14, 2010 7:20 AM ()
I hope you find some other social activity to replace the Lions Club. They will miss your help! Their loss.
comment by troutbend on Sept 13, 2010 4:03 PM ()
As is most service clubs, 30% of the members do 99% of the work. I was really getting tired of being in that minority. They WILL miss me. Ha! I think I'll totally retire.
reply by solitaire on Sept 14, 2010 5:10 AM ()
I would certainly protest. There is nothing in the rules of golf that one has to ride a cart, particularly if you did not keep others waiting by walking. By the way- congrats on winning even if you were disqualified by the old and disgruntled.
comment by dragonflyby on Sept 13, 2010 8:36 AM ()
Yes, they can't take that away from me. Well, they did, I guess. The cart rule was their rule. And so it goes.
reply by solitaire on Sept 13, 2010 1:13 PM ()
That's just odd that you can't walk if you choose to. Try not to be embarrassed tho - you stuck to your guns and were healthier overall, really! I think you should stick with it if you enjoy it overall though...
comment by kristilyn3 on Sept 12, 2010 7:38 PM ()
Thanks for the comment. As I told Jondude, I really don't enjoy it all that much. I get enough "man bonding" with regular daily golf. I'm through with this league--mind made up.
reply by solitaire on Sept 13, 2010 1:10 PM ()
Find another golf league. That would have really really upset me.
comment by jondude on Sept 12, 2010 6:24 AM ()
I can still play golf w/o any league. In fact, I played with a pastor today, and he indicated he was going to quit the league in protest. And, he was going to talk to some of them. Anyway, I get too nervous and competitive when I "play for money". Not good for my bp.
reply by solitaire on Sept 13, 2010 1:08 PM ()
BLOOMIN HECK !what a kick in the butt
comment by kevinhere on Sept 11, 2010 11:18 PM ()
Pretty strong language there, Kevin! Heck and butt. But yes, it is.
reply by solitaire on Sept 13, 2010 1:04 PM ()
Sounds really petty and certainly capricious. Though Jeri says stay in and prevail, I want to know who wants to be around people like this? I have traditionally (since childhood) been excluded from cliques ... I have never suffered for avoiding them. But if it's the only golf club in town, you may wish to stay. As for Ken, you could certainly read him out. I know I would.
comment by tealstar on Sept 11, 2010 11:31 AM ()
I'm with you. Ken is such a hypocritical Christian, it's sickening. If I ever face him, I'm going to ask "what would Jesus have done?" Or quote the Bible: "Judge not, lest ye be judged". As of now, I don't want to talk to him.
reply by solitaire on Sept 13, 2010 1:02 PM ()
Randy, if you resign you are letting them win. Stay in there and there
are all sorts of ways that you can make them feel small and mean spirited.
You played better than any of them. They should feel petty and embarrassed.
comment by elderjane on Sept 11, 2010 6:06 AM ()
Perhaps it's rationalization, but I had considered quitting both orgs before all this happened. I've had issues with them for some time. So this might be the best way to go. I don't think I'm giving in, but simply protesting. Thanks for your imput.
reply by solitaire on Sept 13, 2010 12:58 PM ()

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