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Life & Events > Retirement > Really?
 

Really?

Another young lady died as a result of the Indiana St. Fair stage collapse. What an awful tragedy. We're reminded of it every day.

And, it seems, we are perpetually told that "everything happens for a reason". Really--every thing happens for a reason? I, for one, don't believe that for a second. Neither does my golfing friend, Pastor Ed.

Over and over again, I've heard statements to that affect as they pertain to the fair accident. Now surely, "god" didn't cause this weather related tragedy "for a reason". I realize people try to turn a bad event into something positive, but this is totally illogical.

Reversing the statement makes more sense: There is a reason everything happens. It makes it no less palatable to accept the fact that s**t happens. It's an ugly world out there. People die from many different causes. It's not necessary to rationalize or sugar coat the evils of life. We don't need reasons or explanations of lifes negatives. Cry, pay respects, say you're sorry, move on.

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Briefly, all is well on the home front. I haven't heard a peep in over a week from new friend, Lynn. Hmm. I've been busy with yard and garden, firewood (cut up a truck load yest.), and golfing. I took over for my daughter Emily at the city market Sat. morning. That was stressful, but I managed not to screw up. My dog bite is all healed up. Now it's time to request money for my doctor visits. My blueberry plants that cost me $70 are dying. That's upsetting. What am I doing wrong? There must be a reason, tee hee.
Have a good one, all.

posted on Aug 23, 2011 5:20 AM ()

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I lost a large number of raspberry bushes, including 5 yellow raspberry bushes that were doing great until they ended up repeatedly under water this spring. Now, we are under a fire ban because it's dry!
comment by crazylife on Aug 29, 2011 9:56 PM ()
The only good thing that could possibly come out of the fair tragedy is changes to policies and stage building plans would prevent it from happening again. Frankly, I'm expecting the fair board and all those involved to get sued to bring home the point in a way they won't ever forget. That seems to be the only way sometimes to force changes that will save lives. After all, stupid thing happen for a reason: stupidity!
comment by marta on Aug 25, 2011 9:38 PM ()
'I don't see the problem.' That's the problem!
comment by greatmartin on Aug 24, 2011 8:03 AM ()
If most people weren't so judgmental about every little thing (Oh, it's raining, that's good/bad) they wouldn't need to be so hunk-up on reasons. Accept what is and act accordingly--much easier way to live!
comment by jjoohhnn on Aug 23, 2011 4:28 PM ()
I suppose it's only natural to look for reasons why things happen--and pray for changes if things aren't going your way. We humans are a perplex species!
reply by solitaire on Aug 24, 2011 5:05 AM ()
If you really like her ask her out again and insist that you pay. Life is a
wild ride. There are things we simply are unable to control. Life isn't
fair but what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
comment by elderjane on Aug 23, 2011 4:24 PM ()
I'm trying to ride the middle road--not too aggressive, not too passive (with Lynn). Just biding my time and allowing things to progress on their own.
reply by solitaire on Aug 24, 2011 5:03 AM ()
Awe, poor blueberry plants! I hope you hear from Lynn if you are in fact interested in her...
comment by kristilyn3 on Aug 23, 2011 1:05 PM ()
Still no word as of today. I emailed her asking if she was okay.
reply by solitaire on Aug 24, 2011 5:00 AM ()
Re: the tragedy. I've been to elaborately-staged events and music concerts with stages that looked near big as rocket launching pads at Cape Canaveral. I never though they were so flimsy that one would collapse in a wind storm and kill so many people.
comment by jondude on Aug 23, 2011 10:25 AM ()
Funny--I can't see you attending major shows like this. Jimmy Buffet, perhaps? (I have)
reply by solitaire on Aug 24, 2011 4:59 AM ()
While I believe in a god, I do not believe that the bad things that happen are "the will of god" or that everything happens for a reason. Still, when people suggest that it was willed by god or that there are reasons, I do not nay-say them. Life is tough. Why begrudge anyone a coping mechanism that works for them? Just because it does not work for you does not mean that it is not a valid coping mechanism for others. Your constant criticisms of those who do not believe as you do get old.
comment by dragonflyby on Aug 23, 2011 9:49 AM ()
I'm a "crusader" for reason and logic. That's why I continue. Philosophers don't quit philosophizing. Scientists don't quit questioning. You'll have to stop reading my posts.
reply by solitaire on Aug 24, 2011 4:56 AM ()
Yes,heard about the latest tragedy there.
Things happen.
Well not sure whats going on with Lynn.Maybe this could be a sign from her?who knows.Women are very fickle at that age?
comment by fredo on Aug 23, 2011 9:01 AM ()
I just emailed her a question: "Was it something I said or did?" We'll see.
reply by solitaire on Aug 24, 2011 4:52 AM ()
She's probably busy with the latest edition of the green magazine or whatever it is.

Maybe your soil isn't acid or alkaline enough for the blueberries? Go talk to them, maybe they are lonely. I'm sure you've already told them what you think of them for bailing out, not giving it at least two-season try at your house. Maybe they'll rally next year.
comment by troutbend on Aug 23, 2011 7:48 AM ()
Yes, I'm hoping she's busy with trying to sell her magazine. Still, you'd thing she could find a minute to say hi. As for the blueberries, I've prepped the soil as well as I could for the acid loving plants. Watered and everything. Haven't talked to them yet--at least not out-loud!
reply by solitaire on Aug 24, 2011 4:51 AM ()
I have had too much tragedy in my life to believe everything happens for a reason. What it amounts to is that life is full of hills and valleys. I will say that climbing some of those hills strengthened me for others; a person can choose to embrace adversity, fight through it and move on; or he can choose to let it consume and destroy him. It is all about choices.
comment by redimpala on Aug 23, 2011 7:46 AM ()
You have a good attitude about life's harsh realities. Stay positive!
reply by solitaire on Aug 24, 2011 4:47 AM ()
Mmmmmmm--she pays for you at the Fair and you wonder why you haven't heard from her??? Sometimes I wonder about you!
comment by greatmartin on Aug 23, 2011 7:34 AM ()
"My treat" is supposed to make one feel good about themselves, isn't it? I don't see the problem.
reply by solitaire on Aug 24, 2011 4:45 AM ()

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