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In Case You're Wondering

Good Monday morning, fellow MyBloggers-ites. And Happy Valentines Day all you women out there! Okay, men, too.

Speaking of Valentines Day, I will tell you (in case you're wondering) that I wrote a card to Anna, the librarian, from Florida hinting my desire to "court" her. When I saw her upon my return, she said she got my letter, but appeared cool with her demeaner and lack of positive response. I think we were both embarrassed. And I felt like crawling into a hole. So that's the end of my intention of pursuing the situation. It's up to her to make the next (if any) move. I'm going to have to find a new library! I can't face her now.

The snow is melting, and I can see bare ground! I might be able to get outdoors this week. I'm sick and tired of exercising in the basement. Besides, it's wet from snow melt running in.

Now it's my turn to have a "falling out" with my father. Nothing major: He complained about some frozen corn I gave him ("too chewy"). I rebutted with "nothing pleases you", and that "you complain or criticize everything I or Barb give you". He got defensive and said I had a chip on my shoulder! (The corn was fine--he just didn't cook it long enough.) This went on for awhile, and when I told him I was through bringing him any more food from my freezer or pantry, he backed off. Barb refuses to feed him anymore. He can eat at the Manor (his retirement cafeteria).

Suddenly Dad became "generous". He offered to give, not loan, $10,000 to my daughter and SIL for seed money (literally) to get their season started in their small organic farm operation. I loaned them $3000 yesterday when I visited (mostly to see my grandson!). They have huge expenses this time of year to start up. Perhaps my father is finally realizing that, at age 93 (next month), he can't take it with him. And out of his mouth actually came the words, "When I die, what difference does it make?" There's hope for him after all!

So, in case you were wondering, there's a summary of the Smith family happenings on February 14, 2011. Enjoy your day.
Randy

posted on Feb 14, 2011 6:25 AM ()

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If you are running out of books... is the library part of a larger
library system? Is there an online catalogue where you can lookup
and order books in from other libraries? I can do that at the
library I work at - it's over 100 libraries and I can have books
sent to me from any of them.

comment by crazylife on Feb 16, 2011 9:39 PM ()

Fortunately, we have a connected system of libraries. It's just that I enjoy perusing titles with no preconceived ideas about what I'm interested in. But I've been known to "order" a book. And my big library is only 7 miles away (as opposed to my small, 4 mi distant).

reply by solitaire on Feb 17, 2011 6:02 AM ()

on family matters.

on for toady and always..Best wishes to you

comment by anacoana on Feb 15, 2011 11:20 AM ()

I appreciate the "best wishes". I need all the help I can get!

reply by solitaire on Feb 16, 2011 5:48 AM ()

hope the kids organic farm goes well. Sorry to hear about the librarian

comment by panthurdreams on Feb 15, 2011 9:10 AM ()

Hey Dale. Thanks for stopping by with well wishes. I go to your posts regularly, but don't comment because I'm not a movie buff. Nothing to say. But you're not forgotten!

reply by solitaire on Feb 16, 2011 5:47 AM ()

Hi Randy. Was missing you & wanted to check in to see how you've been.

comment by shesaidwhat on Feb 15, 2011 7:35 AM ()

Terri!!! Where the heck have you been? Hope all is well with you and your family. So, does this post give you a sense of what's going on in my life? Just a snippet.

reply by solitaire on Feb 16, 2011 5:42 AM ()

Don't change libraries just because you feel rebuffed. You have no idea what is going on in her mind or her life right now. Just be yourself- steady as ever.

comment by dragonflyby on Feb 15, 2011 7:23 AM ()

Yes, m'am. I am running out of books to check out in that small library, however. At least books I'm interested in reading. It's just staffed by one, or at most, two people at a time. Often, I'm the only patron in there.

reply by solitaire on Feb 16, 2011 5:45 AM ()

This is how Mr. Tbend would look at it: you saved money on flowers, a card, a dinner, whatever else you might have spent on Valentine's for the librarian. He'd figure you dodged a bullet there. Maybe she needs more time. My mother died in May and my dad's first date was in July that same year, but maybe women need more time.

comment by troutbend on Feb 14, 2011 8:43 PM ()

Believe me, I've thought about the money I save by not dating! My sister also thinks she's (Anna) is simply not ready. But she knows I'm "out there". For all I know, she's dating someone else! That's happened to me. Did you ever get my email?

reply by solitaire on Feb 15, 2011 5:35 AM ()

Randy, it is Anna's loss. I agree with tealstar, don't change libraries....just say Hi and move on. I have no advice concerning a temperamental parent since I did not have to deal with this problem. I am glad he realizes he cannot take it with him. All you can do is make sure he is fed, warm and safe. Unfortunately we will all be in that situation some day. I actually hope I am gone before I become a burden on my sons but that is not my decision.

comment by gapeach on Feb 14, 2011 7:43 PM ()

Fortunately, Dad has always planned to be independent in his old age. He never wanted to be a burden, and he's not. He does speak his mind. And I hear you on the Anna advice.

reply by solitaire on Feb 15, 2011 5:31 AM ()

"Faint heart nere won fair lady" or something to that effect. Ask her out
to dinner. Be definite and don't fear rejection. Sht happens! I am glad
your Dad has finally realized he won't live forever.

comment by elderjane on Feb 14, 2011 6:24 PM ()

And "wise men change their minds--fools never do"! I'm simply taking a "wait and see" attitude.

reply by solitaire on Feb 15, 2011 5:28 AM ()

Happy Valentines.

comment by crazylife on Feb 14, 2011 1:29 PM ()

Thank you. And a belated H.V. to you.

reply by solitaire on Feb 15, 2011 5:26 AM ()

Sounds like a good day so far - and YAY DAD for maybe coming around!

I Would love anything fresh - I envy your dad!!!
Happy Valentines Day Randy, and I am PROUD of you for making the first move with Anna, no matter how it turns out.

comment by kristilyn3 on Feb 14, 2011 12:50 PM ()

There's still hope (with Anna). I'll just wait and see. Actually, I feel relieved and less anxious about the whole thing. Thanks for your support.

reply by solitaire on Feb 15, 2011 5:25 AM ()

comment by nittineedles on Feb 14, 2011 11:43 AM ()

Great article in the Sunday Travel section of the Sun-sentinel about the panhandle

Oh send her, the librarian, A flower today--or a $3.000 check--bet either will make her look at you differently!

comment by greatmartin on Feb 14, 2011 9:45 AM ()

Good report on the panhandle? For a change, I'm going to disregard your suggestion of flowers and money to a woman!

reply by solitaire on Feb 15, 2011 5:22 AM ()

So sorry your Valentine effort went awry. Don't let this discourage you. Don't change libraries. Show her you can take a hint. Be cheerful. Say hi and move on. Your dad is letting it all hang out. I guess at his age, he feels entitled.

comment by tealstar on Feb 14, 2011 9:08 AM ()

Good advice. And true about my father. He doesn't seem to care about the clothes he wears. It can be embarrassing when he goes out.

reply by solitaire on Feb 15, 2011 5:20 AM ()

what you need is a match maker.Match maker,match maker find me a catch.
I think that you should keep a journal on that.Really,could be fun.
You look at her and she looks at you.What do you feel.
Playing cat and mouse.The mouse got caught?(kidding Randy just joshing you)
Now you are going to wonder who is the cat and the mouse.

Your dad very generous in giving the money to the business.
Now does he becomes a stock holder there?
I keep telling my self that you cannot take it with you.
Spend it,spend it if you have it.
That is my motto now.Spend!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You have a lot of drama there.Your dad must be something.
One thing that I have learned,when he complains about the corn or any other food.Let me tell you that this is his way saying "I love You"
When was the last time you told him that?
Think about it.There is always some sort of mental block.
Like being macho etc.Give him a hug and do this.
This will make him feel good.If he push you away,take this as a acceptance.
This is the saddest thing that most men do not hug and kiss or say I love you Dad.I never done this and whished that I had.But too late.
Good luck there.If this does not make any sense,keep in mind I do not have any sense.

Have Valentine Day"

comment by fredo on Feb 14, 2011 9:05 AM ()

I don't like or do "cat and mouse" games with anybody, let alone women I'm interested it. That's why I'm closing the book on this one. It's always a relief. And my BP drops dramatically!

You are absolutely correct about my father and our relationship. He's never said "I love you, son". I don't say it to him either. I feel like if I say it, it would be the "kiss of death". You know, the one last time. It's usually, "see you later". Certainly no hugs. He just doesn't invite the chance. I won't regret never saying "I love you" to him before he dies. I might hold it against him for not ever saying he loved me. But I know he does.

reply by solitaire on Feb 15, 2011 5:16 AM ()

I guess the silver lining in losing my parents young is that I do not have to listen to their criticisms.

comment by dragonflyby on Feb 14, 2011 7:22 AM ()

I wonder how I'll feel when Dad dies? I was sad, but relieved, when Mom died--cancer ridden.

reply by solitaire on Feb 15, 2011 5:06 AM ()

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