It's a rainy, cool day in north-central Indiana. No golf, but no wood splitting either. I busted my maul yesterday. Grr.
I'm waiting to hear from "the man" that's going to install my new high speed internet (Century Link) sometime this week, hopefully! Yep, you read right. It's another step forward for yours truly. Who knows, cell phone next?! Should I keep my current email address for $50/yr, or get another one and have to contact all those to change? I might keep the one I have for awhile, and slowly convert to a hotmail, gmail, or yahoo freebee. One can have two email addresses at one time, can't they?
I need more advice. (And from my experience, many of you are good at delving this out!) I'll try to be brief.
My daughter and husband approached me two days ago about their future taking over the my farm for their sustainable (naturally grown/organic) farming operation. I'm all for them doing this.
However. They're "land rich", cash poor. They need a house, a barn, "start ups" (seeds, trees, irrigation pond, etc.). Where's the money to come from? They can't easily get it because when the housing market went belly up, Nate's construction business went under (bankruptcy resulted). So here's old Dad (me) being asked if I could help finance their new beginnings. Should I? I could. I can withdraw money from my savings and IRA. I can remortgage my house. But I could lose all my money (not to mention the house!) if they fail. Dare I take a chance?
They've been reasonably successful for the past 3 years where they are now (leasing someone else's farmland). I'm 90% sure they'll make it go. But there's that 10% uncertainty. Will I get paid back? They already owe me $40,000! I keep helping them, but have nothing in return (except a good feeling that I'm aiding and abetting). And I'm not being fair to my other 3 kids. They get no assistance and if I die poor, they'll get no inheritance. (Of course "fair" is what I deem!)
I have requested a printout of their finances. I need to see on paper (assuming their honesty) what their income is, and expenditures. My Edward Jones guy said he'd look at it before making suggestions (I talked to him yest.). I need to be assured they can make monthly mortgage payments (back to me), and repay all loans. This makes me very nervous and anxious. Wonder what my blood pressure readings are?
Patience and prudence are the words for the day.
1.) High-speed Internet? Whoa! Welcome to the 20th Century.
2.) Personally, I think your daughter and son-in-law are asking too much. You do have other children to consider, and after your death, this can divide them and their families for generations.
3.) Never risk what you cannot afford to lose.