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I had just written this big long article and lost it! So I am typing this in my wordpad first.
I was letting the weekend go by before writing about what happened at school on Friday. I am angry and upset and thats putting it mildly. I was sitting outside reading waiting for it to be time for Kota's bus to get home. The phone rings, its the school. I have to come pick up Kota, he is sitting with the assistant principle. I get there and the counselor is also there. Here is what happened. Before the bus could leave school property there was an altercation between kota and another kid. The bus driver kicked both off of the bus. The counselor then looks at me and asks if Kota has been witness to any domestic violence. My jaw drops to the floor. I cannot think and say no my husband does even raise his voice to me. You see, when I am in a situation like this my brain stops working. She tells me how Kota has been behaving and he had to come to see her earlier in the day. He had an angry outburst and was sent to see her. She said once he got to her office he was fine, like it had never happened.
Now, for the part of the story they did not tell me. They cannot tell me the names of the kids involved but Kota can. The bus driver gave assigned seats on the bus. She sat kota with the girl who had called him names before and slapped him. The bus driver was so wrong to do this but I feel she did it to get both of them kicked off for the rest of the year. They each have been kicked off for 3 days. However, I will be taking kota and picking him up for the remainder of the year. As a victim of bullying I can see all the signs that Kota is exibiting. The reluctance to get up in the morning, to the point he has cried. The declining school work, the behavior issues that are ONLY happening at school.
When I picked him up on friday we talked in the car about what happened. Every day I hear the same two children's name mentioned as Kota having problems with. I know at least one rides his bus as well as is in his class. There are 24 children in his class and the teacher only has one set of eyes. Kota has been daydreaming in class and playing with pencils or whatever is in his desk. After we talked on Friday and got home, it was like I flipped a light switch. He was animated, chatty, laughing and playing. He knew he would have two days off of school.
So I am working on a letter to send the principal, the assistant principal and the counselor. They are trying to blame this all on kota without even considering that he is being the target of bullies. And I will not stand for that. I am documenting different instances, the choice the bus driver made in seating these two together when they have been written up on the bus previously. We may be a poor family but we pay taxes just like the rich families do and I expect my child to be treated no differently. I will try the letter first. If I get no satisfaction I will take it higher. Until I get the results I want.
They do not want to have to deal with my husband if I do not get answers. When our daughter was in middle school she got beat up. Because she fought back she also got suspended. Hubby walked into the principals office and told him he was going to punch him right in the mouth. And that the principal would just have to sit there and take it! Because in essence that is what they were saying. I believe they lifted daughters suspension.
posted on Apr 20, 2008 3:27 PM ()
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That would make it so much easier for them, eh, Mary? To just put the blame on homelife instead of looking at what is going on at school with Kota. You are doing the right thing...you are a wonderful mother, you know what to look for and your instincts are bang on. I believe that wholeheartedly. You will see Kota through this and he will be a stronger little boy because of your efforts.
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I'm so sorry you all have to CONTINUE to go through with this on a daily basis. Keep track of everything in a log with time and dates and activities that occured.