And I am the 100th person telling you to SEND THE LETTER!! If nothing else it will be on record--I would send copies to the Principal, the teachers involved, yes, even, the school counselor--and a copy to the local newspaper, radio and TV stations--it might even prod one to do a story on bullying in school--and, also, to the UCLA--they are very anti-bullying in schools--all this might get you some response to solve the problem.
Do it now--stop procrastinating.

Does the school not have a counselor that could arrange to see Kota? That's not fair that you should have to foot the bill... but at the very least, hopefully there's some resolution on the horizon.

Mary, you need to send the letter and keep a copy for yourself. They may ignore it but at least it will be on file.

well,first of all why is Kota so angry?Is he angry at the bully
or other sort.This could be trouble for both of you.
Yes,do get help and not wait too long.
You have to work this out.This is not right for him to get in
all kinds of trouble at school.Is he trying to get attention
there?if so and then you have to find why.
Are you smothering him,so to speak.
This is me and living with a social worker.

You seemed to get yourself in a grind there.
Have to get out and do some work on this.
Talk to him,look at his body language etc.
Well,this is my suggestion.
Talk to him.

I agree with everyone else SEND THE LETTER!!!! You need to stand your ground with the school and show them you mean buisness. I have had to do the same with my sons school. I really feel for you and your son!

It's so hard when kiddies are suffering some kind of torment at school. I know that sometimes, it's a bit of 'growing up' and having their own issues to deal with - finally starting to 'stand up for themselves' if, they have been subjected to a bit of bullying in the past by another child[ren]. If that is, the situation, then 'good for Dakota' in doing something, I think. From how you have described him in previous posts, I don't think you have anything to 'worry' about, he sounds a well behaved, caring sort of little boy, not at all 'loutish'
-brakes or steering? get them seen to, you can't be too careful

Mary? You know we love you, right?Do something for me...please. Send the letter. Don't forget that you're his Mama. You know the truth. Don't be intimidated, Mary. Don't back down. I know it's tough, but you'll be doing the right thing for Kota and for you.You know that he's not the same little boy he was when you put him on the bus in September and you're reacting appriopriately to what you're being shown. Please send the letter and look into things further. Kids who are bullied do act out...you know that this is true. Do this for Kota who is too young to speak out to the teachers and principals.Please, Mary.

I am glad that you sorted out the missing Pepper!
I agree with Kristilyn and Angie. I think that it is important that school officials see that they take to long to work on bullying issues.
AJ

Mary!!! Still send the letter!!! It can't hurt. Seriously! Speak your mind! At least that way you won't be wallowing in it as much, ya know? Not that ya shouldn't be, I think you have every reason to be upset!
And I am glad ya found Pepper!

I am so sorry, but I think that you should send the letter regardless of whether they have a preset notion. There are two sides to every story and you have to tell Kota's. I would want to get to the root of his hostility to find out how to help him cope. What does he say when you talk to him? This is so stressful for you and Kota; I am so very sorry.