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folks, you just won't believe this. And this is my reason for being absent for a day or so. Friday morning Kota was expelled from school. Although I did not know he was expelled until we got to door leaving the building! Here is what happened:
I was called around 8:45 Friday morning by the principal. She asked me to come get kota as he had one of his meltdowns and was not calming down. I get there and he is in the hallway inside the office. The asst principal and the school counselor are with him. Kota looks mad. So I start talking, interrupted by the two school people, and kota starts to have another fit, kicking the wall and pacing the hallway like a caged tiger. They kept telling kota he could not leave with me until he calmed down. At this point I felt they were overreacting. The counselor leaves and comes back with a crises hotline number for me. She says I can call them and have someone meet me at my home to help with kota. I look at her not knowing what in the world she is talking about. They felt I would not be able to control him and that he might hurt me! OK, at this point my brain has left the building and I am just wanting to get out of there. So they have kota pick up his bookbag and he says how heavy it is. Which is really weird. He usually only has two things in it. Anyway, we walk to the lobby and this is where the principal and asst principal tell me that kota cannot come back to school. This coming week is their last week. They tell me that friday is really the last day that attendance counts and they will mail home his report card.
We get to the car and kota is fine. He is glad to be gone from school. We start home and I just start crying, wondering what the hell just happened? I let them walk all over me and do what they wanted! I remember asking them what set kota off. They all said, I don't know. Well I will tell you, the same three kids were calling him fatty and faggot. Ahhh, its starting to become clear. It is much easier to expel kota because I am shy, meek and will not stand up for myself. I get home and call hubby, sobbing. I feel so bad for my little guy. But then I talk to him later in the day. And he is ecstatic that he does not have to go back! Something is very wrong with this picture. Lets not forget his grades are superb and he is really on a second grade level already. So I cried, I stewed, I got mad all friday. Then I started thinking. Private schools are out due to the tuition. Homeschooling! So many people are doing it now for just the reasons I feel. Public schools are not teaching our kids anything. If you are not rich your voice is not heard.
I have talked to hubby and we have decided to go with homeschooling. I will continue to take kota to his outside counselor. I am hoping once I tell her what has happened, she can give me an idea of what I can do. I feel we were treated unfairly and my claims of verbal abuse against kota were never taken seriously. It was much easier for the school to throw out one kid than to have to deal with 3 different families who are causing the abuse.
I am still steamed. Mainly because I let them do this to me and kota. Because I could not think and shout, what the hell is going on here? Why does my child not want to come to school and why does he throw these fits ONLY in school?
I feel kota will do much better with homeschooling than public schools. He can move ahead in areas he is strong and get extra help in any areas he might need help. There are groups around here we can get involved with for field trips and interaction with kids his own age. I can slam the door on the public school system and say my child will not be its next victim!
My title says it all. Friday I was upset and crying and wanting some answers. Today the light has entered and I am being guided in a new direction. kota is very intelligent and I feel he would only suffer in this public school system. Just another number so to speak.
I got my fighting gloves on now, look out world!
