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Life & Events > After the Visit.
 

After the Visit.

We had that let down feeling after Fredo and Mike left. We
enjoyed them immensely and tried to do one special thing
every day. Then home for lunch and happy hour. Mike and
I cooked and he left us with some excellent recipes. Our
Italian restaurant proved satisfactory and Bobby took me
there yesterday for lunch. Rex really misses them because
he had two extra people to spoil him. Mike did a tremendous amount of work in the back yard, for which I
am extremely grateful.

The storms are persistent as is the rain. Flooding is all
around us and one of our skylights is leaking. I am hesitant
to complain because so many other people are in far worse
shape but it is like being bombed constantly with the
hail and the rain.

After the V.A. being so stingy with Ted, now they are
heaping him with benefits. He is getting a ramp for the
backyard and a lift to put in the Suburban. The occupational therapist loaded him down with grabbers, a
shower chair and other goodies. I suspect that their
recent evaluation had something to do with the increased
service.

Ted's cognition is beginning to deteriorate noticeably.
Bobby's cancer has invaded his lungs and liver. I grieve
every day and spend as much time as I can with Bobby,
without making a nuisance of myself. We have always
been so close and he seems to need me more than
Linda does. He looks hale and hearty but he never feels
well. The only way that I know how to cope is by taking
it one day at a time and wresting whatever small pleasures
that I can from living. Working helps a lot so I try to
stay busy.

Two of Ted's doctors have told me not to let Ted drive
anymore and the dread car key removal day is coming.
I don't want to do it but it is almost time.

posted on June 5, 2013 5:20 AM ()

Comments:

Sorry to hear about what's happening in your life.
Glad to hear you had a wonderful time with Fredo and Mike though.
comment by jaydensblog on June 7, 2013 2:39 PM ()
My heart goes out to you. Ted and Bobbie- that is more than anyone should have to bear. While I hear your pain and grief, I am amazed at how well you cope and the inner strength you model for all of us.
comment by dragonflyby on June 5, 2013 3:33 PM ()
You do what you have to do. You can understand how heartbreaking it is. I would gladly sacrifice my life for Bobby's. Unfortunately it doesn't work that way.
reply by elderjane on June 5, 2013 4:45 PM ()
Thank you so much. I appreciate your good vibes.
comment by elderjane on June 5, 2013 1:15 PM ()
Mike told me about this and was not aware of it.
comment by fredo on June 5, 2013 1:07 PM ()
Oh!this is something that you did not tell us?here I am praising him how well that he is doing.
Sorry,about the car key and do not envious so much on this.
Not sure how he is going to take it.
comment by fredo on June 5, 2013 9:50 AM ()
He won't take it well. He has always been such a good driver but I try to
keep him off the expressways.
reply by elderjane on June 5, 2013 1:02 PM ()
You know my heart goes out to you and Ted. We were supposed to get rain last night, and didn't - I think it went to your house. It's been at least 3 weeks since we got any precipitation.
comment by troutbend on June 5, 2013 9:28 AM ()
I know. I really need friends now.
reply by elderjane on June 5, 2013 1:03 PM ()
My heart is with you, dear Jeri. ((((( )))))
comment by marta on June 5, 2013 8:34 AM ()
They are burning brightly every day!
reply by marta on June 6, 2013 9:41 AM ()
Thank you so much Marta, light your candles.
reply by elderjane on June 5, 2013 1:04 PM ()
We are expecting more flooding rain this weekend and I keep reminding myself that at least I have a basement to pump out. Thee are pics of areas around the Mississippi River where the first floor of the houses are under water. And barge traffic had been suspended a few months ago because the water is too low. Sounds like you have more than your share to deal with, but life isn't fare.
comment by jjoohhnn on June 5, 2013 8:29 AM ()
So many people in Oklahoma have lost so much. I have a grand niece who lost her house in Moore. Be grateful for a basement to pump. We have
never had all these storms every day insofar as I can remember.
reply by elderjane on June 5, 2013 1:07 PM ()
Geez such a bummer for Ted and SO SORRY to hear about Bobby! maybe it will disappear somehow, miracles do happen...
I'm very glad you enjoyed your visit with the guys, sounds very nice!
comment by kristilyn3 on June 5, 2013 8:18 AM ()
Yes, it was a welcome break. I took the little girls shopping today and out
to lunch. They never want the kind of girly clothes that I would love to
see them in. Adrienne got jeans and Ashley got a camo jacket and said she was going to wear it all day, hot or not.
reply by elderjane on June 5, 2013 1:09 PM ()
You remain so upbeat under trying circumstances that I marvel at your caring strength. To echo Redwolftimes, it is extremely important to not postpone following the dr's dictate re Ted not driving anymore. You don't want a catastrophe to happen.
comment by steeve on June 5, 2013 7:49 AM ()
Thank you, the blog has become my social life and I need you all. You just
keep keeping on, one step at a time and one day at a time.
reply by elderjane on June 6, 2013 12:55 PM ()
Jeri, I remember when my dad had to stop driving..it was hard for him to admit he no longer had the ability to be behind the wheel. But he recognized the danger he'd put people in if he continued to drive, so he gave up his keys. But luckily my brother was around to take him where he needed to go, always making time for stops at DD & McDonalds. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family
comment by redwolftimes on June 5, 2013 6:44 AM ()
Thank you so much. Our family is in crisis but bad things happen to every
one sooner or later.
reply by elderjane on June 5, 2013 1:10 PM ()
Dear Jeri, so sorry you are dealing with such devastating issues. You are amazingly strong. Yes, one day at a time is the only option. My thoughts are with you.
comment by tealstar on June 5, 2013 5:49 AM ()
Thank you Teal. I know you have been down the route of mental decline.
Ted says he would rather be dead than lose any more memory but we are
using Namenda and Aricept in combination. I am not sure they are doing
a lot of good. Maybe some day research will catch up to Alzheimer's and
cancer. The double blow is hard to take.
reply by elderjane on June 5, 2013 1:14 PM ()
comment by jondude on June 5, 2013 5:48 AM ()
Thank you for being supportive.
reply by elderjane on June 5, 2013 1:17 PM ()

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