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Life & Events > Ripe Peaches.
 

Ripe Peaches.

Ted and I went to Shawnee to get his medicine at the
Indian Clinic today and lo and behold a fresh fruit stand
was on the corner. We haven't had home grown peaches
in several years and were delighted at the opportunity
to get some sun ripened ones. They were sinfully expensive
but well worth it. I immediately came home and made a
fresh peach cobbler. There is nothing like fresh peach pie.

I have mixed feelings about today. I have an appointment
to arrange and pay for our final expenses. We have decided
it would be so much easier to arrange beforehand but it
still gives you a funny feeling even if it will make it easier
on all concerned. I like Joan's idea of having my ashes
buried in my father's grave. He taught me all that I know
about unconditional love and made me the gift of it my
entire life. His integrity and commitment to his family
was incredible.

Enough of these morbid musings. My health is good except
for a recent spike in blood pressure which my Doctor
eliminated with one tiny pill, sort of like a magic bullet.
Ted's health could be better and Rex is in superb shape.

posted on July 11, 2012 11:12 AM ()

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I think placing one's ashes with a person who meant the most to us when they were with us is such a good idea. My dad, like yours, was my hero. I can't think of anywhere I would rather spend eternity than with him.

As for fresh peaches, those are to die for!
comment by redimpala on July 16, 2012 4:56 AM ()
I was surprised when my daughter recently asked me about "what I want done" when I die (donate body to science). No peaches here this year--freeze.
comment by solitaire on July 14, 2012 5:12 AM ()
I like your idea of a party to celebrate your life!
peach cobbler!!!! I bet that was delicious. now I will be craving some until I can find someone to make me one.
comment by elkhound on July 14, 2012 4:32 AM ()
Yes, sooner or later I will have to deal with those final arrangements too, but since I am only in my sixties, I use that as an excuse to put it off.
comment by dragonflyby on July 12, 2012 10:01 AM ()
We just wanted to make it easy for the children and know that they woould not waste money on an expensive and meaningless rite of passage.
After all, I would rather they have a good family party with no sadness than a funeral I couldn't enjoy.
reply by elderjane on July 13, 2012 4:15 AM ()
Dear Jeri, I have been through this one, handling my late husband's funeral alone, spending too much in a rip-off because he was cremated, but too devastated and weary to fight it. Here, Ed's friends would help and he has many. At least I think I could call on one or two. But it would have little do with money -- just the mechanics of geting things done. Every morning I wake up and think "not today."
comment by tealstar on July 12, 2012 7:25 AM ()
I have been through this with our parents and although it was in a small
town and much friendlier with no pressure, we spent tons of money and
benefited only the undertaker. The way I have it set up, two phone calls
will take care of it, it is paid for, the death certificates will be ordered and no one has that last minute stuff to do. I want a big family party with
close friends, great drinks...I am thinking champagne, and snacks.
reply by elderjane on July 13, 2012 4:22 AM ()
We haven't talked about our final arrangements. I suppose the one who is left just gets to do what they want, and after that, nobody cares. I'm a little bit sorry we're not the sort to have a vision of a big sendoff, like those alleged New Orleans funerals we see in movies. Here is my plan for Mr. YouKnow: his ashes will be on the shelf in the back garage with my dad's ashes, and our heirs will have to figure out what to do with them.
comment by troutbend on July 11, 2012 8:40 PM ()
That sounds about right.
reply by tealstar on July 14, 2012 4:52 AM ()
I love the concept of playing you home like in New Orleans. After all, it
is fun for the participants. I want Ted buried with full military honors if he
goes first which is unlikely. Our wedding was so much fun for everyone that I want a party like it when we go with family. We have outlived most
of our friends. I am glad that it is done.
reply by elderjane on July 13, 2012 4:28 AM ()
I tried to donate my remains to Albany Medical Center. The use it for teaching purposes and keep it for as long as two years. Then they cremate remains individually and send the ashes to the recipient specified. No charge for any of it. I waited for a response and finally called to find out that if I die tomorrow I'll be rejected due to excess weight. The woman said to hold the paperwork, since many people are denied, but qualify by the time the event happens. Guess I should think about Plan B, just in case.
comment by jjoohhnn on July 11, 2012 6:50 PM ()
LOL Yup, in my belief system, you won't know about it.
reply by jjoohhnn on July 13, 2012 7:47 AM ()
I thought about medical school donation but I don't relish the thought of
med students joking about my body. Silly huh!
reply by elderjane on July 13, 2012 4:31 AM ()
I do not look forward to the day when I plan stuff like that. Although I probably should have some sort of plan in action, if only for the pups.
comment by kristilyn3 on July 11, 2012 12:09 PM ()
I know. We are doing this for the sake of the children, to make it easier
for them when the time comes.
reply by elderjane on July 11, 2012 4:31 PM ()
This is all taken care of.Ashes will be here and there.
Peach gobbler never had one.Guess I have missed out a lot of food.
You know what I missed the most.Hot Dog in a bun.Have not for years and know that Mike loves it.Have a surprised for him and will get him one soon.The Hot dog that is it.
Will post soon.
comment by fredo on July 11, 2012 11:54 AM ()
Fredo, you have missed out on a life experience. Imagine a fresh sun
ripened peach even sweeter and better. Do surprise Mike with a deluxe
hot dog. He deserves it because he is one sweet guy.
reply by elderjane on July 11, 2012 4:33 PM ()
In contrast, Ed and I making no arrangements but we have no children who will have to guess at things. I am thinking the lawyers and fiduciaries will take over and nothing will mean anything to any of them.
comment by tealstar on July 11, 2012 11:15 AM ()
If I didn't have children, I wouldn't bother with it either unless you and
Ed want to make some decisions to save each other a hassle. Ted and I
always hoped we would perish in an accident together but that is unrealistic.
reply by elderjane on July 11, 2012 4:37 PM ()

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