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Life & Events > Relationships > Sour Grapes
 

Sour Grapes

Bad news, good news. First the bad, which really isn't, but I like to complain.
I forked over $32 to play in a Seniors Outing (golf) yesterday. I "won" by shooting a 75, but didn't get a dime for my efforts. Why not? Well, it was a team tournament with handicaps used to determine team winners.

My "teammates" stunk. It happens every time. Being I'm the "best", I get stuck with the worse players. And almost always, they play horribly. We placed 3rd out of 6 teams, but out of the money. And, of course, I didn't win any prizes from a drawing. Zippo and sour grapes. PS: Did you hear or read the news item that said "It's true. Nice guys do finish last."?

Now, the good news. My new friend and I did go to the Indiana State Fair Monday. She paid! We had a good time, visiting exhibits and strolling around. No rides, of course. We shared an elephant ear and later had tacos. Nothing seemed out of the ordinary, despite the tragedy of the stage collapse two days before.

I've had 3 dates with Lynn now, and we haven't even held hands, let alone kissed. I'm not sure what the deal is--whether it's me or her (or a combination). Perhaps this is meant to be a platonic, rather than romantic, relationship. I don't want to come on too strong, like I'm desparate. Plus, there's something about her (or me?) that's holding me back. It may be the age factor. See, I don't consider myself old, but Lynn appears like a grandmother (which she is).
Subconsciously, perhaps, I'm turned off by this thought. My frame of mind is thinking I'm still a young buck chasing the hot chicks (sorry about the mixed metaphor). I need help getting past this. Other than that, I enjoy her company and companionship.

I'll keep you all posted! Life is still good!

posted on Aug 17, 2011 4:58 AM ()

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Well for goodness sake, have you looked in the mirror lately? You also look like a grandparent. Here you finally find a woman who is skinny enough for you to consider speaking to her, she has a good job, she lives in the same state as you, not too near, not too far, and you're turned off because she doesn't look like a teenager.
comment by troutbend on Aug 19, 2011 4:07 PM ()
I should have never expressed my feelings. Where's your "understanding"? I freely admit/confess to my true inner thoughts, at least. I certainly realize I'm no spring chicken! I'm good with Grandpa Randy. By the way, I haven't heard a peep from Lynn since the fair, 6 days ago. So maybe it's over.
reply by solitaire on Aug 21, 2011 5:37 AM ()
I know what you mean by not feeling attracted to people my age. They are not attracted to me either. Men my age want the arm candy. I don't want a young looking buck, but I still find it hard to feel attracted to older men.
comment by dragonflyby on Aug 19, 2011 7:36 AM ()
Sort of like that old saw--stuck between a rock and a hard place. We'll just have to go with the flow.
reply by solitaire on Aug 21, 2011 5:31 AM ()
Randy, you have received enough advice above so you don't need any from me. Enjoy yourself and be happy.
comment by gapeach on Aug 18, 2011 7:16 PM ()
Hi Nancy. True, I get a lot of advice--most of which I ignore! And thanks.
reply by solitaire on Aug 19, 2011 4:56 AM ()
'I teased her about buying an elephant ear at the fair as "payback"' Sure shame the woman into paying!!!
'You're no help.' Do you really want help from a guy who has had 4--count them--4--failed relationships???
comment by greatmartin on Aug 18, 2011 3:55 PM ()
Look, Don't ever let the woman pay! If she has gray hair suggest that she
dye it when you know her better but remember, your own beard is white
and you have grandchildren too.
comment by elderjane on Aug 18, 2011 7:11 AM ()
You're right, of course, "Grandma"!
reply by solitaire on Aug 19, 2011 4:53 AM ()
Sorry,cannot help here.But if I did.Probably get scolded.
comment by fredo on Aug 17, 2011 1:16 PM ()
Sometimes the best advice is to keep ones mouth shut! I hear you.
reply by solitaire on Aug 18, 2011 4:43 AM ()
'I like to complain.' And then you post a blog doing nothing but complaining!!!
Okay, to me, there is something wrong with her paying for the fair--maybe because I am a gentleman or maybe because I am old fashioned--unless you have an agreement (and, yes, that is a talk that puts the relationship on another level) about going Dutch, sharing expenses or taking turns paying then you should be picking up the check.
'Lynn appears like a grandmother (which she is).' That sounds like--as the kids say--a 'deal breaker'--maybe, as a typical old man, you should be looking for a 20-30 year old girl!
comment by greatmartin on Aug 17, 2011 8:01 AM ()
I gave readers fair warning that I was complaining. And see my response to Kristi. You're no help.
reply by solitaire on Aug 18, 2011 4:42 AM ()
Randy, just go with the flow..things happen in their own good time. People get nervous, or worried..especially if you've been in a bad relationship. You tend to be more cautious and guard your feeling a bit more, and you put up barriers to keep people from getting in. Give it some time, I think soon enough you'll know what the situation is..good luck
comment by redwolftimes on Aug 17, 2011 7:01 AM ()
Good advice--thanks. It's been 3 days since I've heard from her (email), so I'm beginning to wonder. Patience is the key.
reply by solitaire on Aug 18, 2011 4:39 AM ()
we all feel we are young and look young, no matter what we look like on the outside. Why haven't you even reached for her hand? If you truly aren't attracted to her perhaps you should call it a friendship and let her go find someone to fulfill her womanly needs. Did you offer to pay? Just sounds very strange to me, but I am glad you are having a good time with her.
comment by kristilyn3 on Aug 17, 2011 6:56 AM ()
I like the perspective from a young lady like yourself. When I paid for the $100 dinner date, I teased her about buying an elephant ear at the fair as "payback". I did try to pay for my own way, but she insisted. By the way, I grabbed her hand as we departed with a "thank you for a good time".
reply by solitaire on Aug 18, 2011 4:36 AM ()
Glad you two enjoyed the fair outing and your time together. Just let whatever is happening... happen. Don't over analyze it.

As for the golf tournament, as a former one handicapper before fibro struck, I hear ya! I ran regional USGA amateur tournaments for a decade all over Northwest Ohio, and in my opinion, every tournament no matter what the format, should have a gross and net division, or at the very least, recognize the best low gross scores. But playing well is its own reward. Applause!!
comment by marta on Aug 17, 2011 5:50 AM ()
Thanks. I realize they're only trying to "level the playing field", but it's still aggrevating! And you're right--don't over analyze (the dating thing).
reply by solitaire on Aug 18, 2011 4:31 AM ()

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