Hang in there. A divorce is like a death (I well know having lived through one many years ago). You must mourn your loss. It's okay. But then get back to life, for that is where the good stuff happens.

Guess I am not alone in my sadness. Bless you- and have a wonderful New Year!

My first marriage, the divorce bothered me ALOT! Hurt me for years actually, but I finally got over it. My second marriage, I don't feel she was really ready. I don't feel she loved me, and am I am certain she had too much going on to be in any relationship. I am pretty much over "anything" that happened between me and either wife (or girlfriend between), but I can't say thoughts don't come up now and then.

Rena, was my first wife.. we were together 13 years. I loved her, but we were way different. At some point, the marriage failed. I still care for her.. but don't want to be with her. I hoped things would change (before she really committed to another) but they didn't. Now.. I care.. and that's about it.

My second marriage was to "Busymidmich" mom on here (Debbie). Actually, we are still married but neither wants a relationship. We will never be together. That one, I feel was a huge mistake. I know of her family problems, I know how lonely I was and wanted a relationship (Before I met her). In some ways, we were both in the same boat. We both married, when neither of us really were ready... Alot still needs to be resolved...

So what I can say... being single (separate and/or marriage) is complicated. You will go through alot mentally...
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Here goes! A series of related or unrelated lines, in no particular order!

It's a first Christmas. The first with my new family. The first without my ex.

I'm finding Christmas to be the hardest time of all to adjust to change.

I sooooo want to be happy and only happy and yet I've been fighting tears.

I've prepared for the holiday so well with all the gifts, decorations and food.
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GUESS WHAT??
You are like everyone else. We've all been through this. It sucks, I can say.. but things will get better!!!! Just "Hang in there Babe"!! Every feeling you have is "Natural"!!!

Gary

(((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))) for you. Merry Christmas to you and yours.

I know how you feel. I still have dreams, but only in my sleep, that bring back the memories. I have dreamed of all the old friends and family being together for holidays. It won't ever totally fade away. At least you have children to be with. Make it good for them.

The holiday season brings with it the happiest of times and the saddest of times all at once. We love the idea of sharing the caring, but it also leaves us in pain when we can't be with those we most care about or when things don't work out as we so hoped.
Merry Christmas!
AJ

I understand and even though it has been 17 years since my divorce, I still miss that family gathering. I still cry at Christmas even though I try not to. Love and hugs to you. Annie :o)