When I finally confronted my ex today, this is what I was told. And I'd been really missing his lil pet names to me too!

Last night after my last post, Kev couldn't sleep and I offered to come read to him. It didn't take long for me to realize that the book wasn't what he was interested in. His eyes were still all sunken in and sad. I asked him what was wrong and he shook his head in indifference. I asked him if he wanted me to read and he did the same. I asked him if he wanted to come hug me and he came down to the other end of the bed and really hugged me like he hasn't in a long time. Silent tears started flowing again and I didn't need to ask why. He was still missing his dad and still sad that his Dad had said no for two nights in a row when he called him because he wanted to see him.

Then at 1 a.m. Marissa came home because I guess she had a stomach ache and didn't want to spend the night at her friends. I hadn't heard my phone because of being in Kev's room and I was very surprised that it was her father who had brought her home!! When Kev heard this, he again went into sad, angry convulsions and yelled that dad said he wasn't going to be home. This was the second time in just last night that he found out he was home after saying he wasn't going to be home. Marissa knew what was going on and how sad Kev was and it made my heart ache yet swell with pride when she asked him for a hug and then he gave her a big, heartfelt hug as he'd given me. He was feeling so empty. It hurt me so bad. I wanted to hurt his father for hurting my boy! Then his sissy asked him to come sleep with her in her room and he began to calm down and get ready for bed. Rissy got him some tissues and a garbage basket next to the bed so he could blow his stuffy nose.

Marissa also mentioned to me that she thought it awful odd that Dad wouldn't just let her spend the night as his house and come back home in the morning. She had said to her dad "Everyone is sleeping so can I just stay at your house tonight and go back in the morning." He had said "No, I'll bring you home." So quite obviously he was having a sleep over at his house last night.

Today as soon as Kev got up, he asked for my phone. By the time I got up, Kev was asking me if it was okay for him to keep my phone with him because he was waiting for daddy to call him back. Kev said dad told him he had to work and get some car parts to fix his car and he would call him when he got done getting the parts.

All day the phone never rang. G, the kids and I went and had lunch and then to Wally world for groceries and to just browse around a little. For a little while G brought the kids browsing while I got groceries. When I met back up with them, Riss said that her dad had called and asked what size coat she wore and said he was buying her a pink jacket. I asked if he talked to Kev and he didn't.

So in the car on the way home, I called and asked him if he was getting both kids coats. He said yes. Then I asked (blood starting to boil): "Are you shopping right now?" He said yes (obviously with his chick!). I told him Kev had been waiting for him to call back all day. He said he spoke to Kev a few times and didn't know "Kev" was waiting for him. He acted dumb about having told him that he was working while instead was out shopping (trying to look like the good dad out shopping with his new chick) Grrr!! Anger and hate...I wish he didn't have this power over me. He's hurt me for years, but now he's hurting my kids (in particular my baby) and Momma bear if freaking mad!

I lit into him and said that he was hurting his son. He asked how and I explained it to the dummy who in turn told me I was a pain in his a$$. I said that was all well in good, but that's my job as a mom- to be a pain in the ass of those who hurt my babies! He said "Any other night would be okay but tonight I have plans." I reminded him he'd had plans 3 nights in a row that Kev had asked.

Meaning that the kids were going to be turning against him if he continues as he is now, I said "When you lose the kids, you'll know why". I think he may have been thinking of a physical "me taking them from him" but I didn't want to or have time to explain. I wanted to just say one more thing to him. I was in the middle of "I never thought you'd do this to your own kids. You always said you'd never hurt our kids and neglect them let your father did to you". But at some point in that line, he hung up on me. I must have stirred something up though (or maybe his chick told him that he should put his kid's needs first), because five mins later he called Rissa's phone and said to tell Kev he'd pick him up in an hour. Riss said she was going to stay here with us and Riss got a little teary eyed because he took a long time to respond and then was kind of cold to her.

He's showing his true colors to the kids. I'm sad I didn't choose a better father for my children. Why do so many dads try to divorce their children along with their ex?