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Superficial Judgments

When I think of my friends, it is the inside person that
I know and love. I really could care less about their looks,
monetary values or social status. I could probably count
my dearest friends on one hand but once you become my friend
you would have to get very toxic for me to abandon you.

Women are inclined to share burdens and trials with each
other. It is a treasured friend indeed who loves you despite
knowing some of the things you would never reveal to another
human being and who keeps that confidence.

Physical beauty fades with time and the circumstances of our
lives. Beauty can blind you temporarily and riches and wealth are dazzling but you can't build a life on either
thing. We are often puzzled when we see a couple that doesn't
seem to match but as we get to know them better we understand
the richness of the inner person.

We really cheat ourselves if we let fatness or skinnyness or
a plain face bar us from a friendship or a relationship.
We might be missing out on sheer treasure.

posted on Dec 13, 2011 5:57 PM ()

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As much as I devote time to myself physically, I don't impose these standards on others, except to encourage them to be healthy. One of my friends is showing signs of creeping dissolution and that saddens me. She is drinking more, slipping back more. Getting to the point where I wonder if she is safe to know, since the people she takes up with are very questionable. I certainly don't want them in my house. Hard choices.
comment by tealstar on Dec 15, 2011 7:14 AM ()
That is a very hard choice to make. You cannot afford to have people in your
home that compromise your safety, yet you can still be helpful if she will
listen to you.
reply by elderjane on Dec 15, 2011 10:05 AM ()
I know that you are my friend.
comment by fredo on Dec 14, 2011 9:50 AM ()
You sure are sweetie.
reply by elderjane on Dec 15, 2011 10:06 AM ()
In AA we each have a "sponsor" (not exactly what it sounds like) with whom we can discuss anything. It was discovered long ago that its difficult to be unique no matter how low and vile one might consider his past to be. Sharing experience--it aint just for women!
comment by jjoohhnn on Dec 14, 2011 7:41 AM ()
I think it is wonderful that you have that kind of relationship. A lot of
men won't let other men know their secrets. It is very healthy to be able
to share feelings.
reply by elderjane on Dec 15, 2011 10:08 AM ()
comment by hobbie on Dec 14, 2011 6:39 AM ()
More pictures of you and your friends, please.
reply by elderjane on Dec 14, 2011 6:58 AM ()
My hubby had this friend, and he was always trying to get me to know him and his wife. I knew they had money and I was afraid I would not measure up to their standards. Well I finally gave in and these 2 people have become such wonderful friends to us. they have never looked down on us and treat us as equals. I am so thankful I took the time to get past my own judgements!
comment by elkhound on Dec 14, 2011 3:55 AM ()
Sometimes our own judgments can bar out getting to know wonderful people.
reply by elderjane on Dec 14, 2011 6:59 AM ()
comment by kristilyn3 on Dec 13, 2011 7:11 PM ()
reply by elderjane on Dec 14, 2011 6:59 AM ()
Once in awhile we find out who our friends really are through their words and/or actions, and it's not always a happy event.
comment by troutbend on Dec 13, 2011 6:49 PM ()
It is not always happy but we try not to let hurtful people gain a
place in our heart.
reply by elderjane on Dec 14, 2011 7:01 AM ()
Yes!
comment by marta on Dec 13, 2011 6:46 PM ()
reply by elderjane on Dec 14, 2011 7:01 AM ()
So very, very true. I so appreciate your outlook on life.
comment by dragonflyby on Dec 13, 2011 6:37 PM ()
We sure have been missing you dear Dottie.
reply by elderjane on Dec 14, 2011 7:02 AM ()

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