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What's more important to me currently is the stuff that's happening in my immediate life and eating at my mind. So many conflicting feelings, short fuse, strong need for silence and alone time while intensely craving physical closeness. I'm a bunch of paradoxes!
Ok...events at a glance...
I had a meeting after school today. Then I had to pick up Kevin from my sister's because she watched him on his half day. Then Marissa had dance and Kev had his first night of tutoring. He did really well and he also did a lot of extra work with me this afternoon.
I brought Kev to his dad's after his tutoring appointment and I made the grave error of letting a conversation start and finding it tough to end it when it got heated. And guess what it was over??? Money, money...money of course!
He let something slip out about "getting the raw end of the deal" and so immediately I got on the defensive. He argued a few reasons why he shouldn't have to pay me. I honestly never thought this was something I'd have to worry about. His reasons were:
1. We make about equal money (true, but doesn't change the point of the matter...it's for the kids)
2. We have the kids about equal time (false and I proved to him tonight that I have exactly double hours than he does- this pissed him off to no end).
3. I'm living with G. Therefore we have a dual income and he's only living on one (true, irrelevant and none of his business)
4. He does things for the kids. (Freaking duh! He's the dad. I'm the mom and I do things for them too. It has nothing to do with the fact that these are his kids and he owes it to them to provide for them in many ways-including financially)
So I'm relatively sure we're not going to be on friendly terms for at least a couple of days.
No excuses...they are HIS children. It is none of his business who you are living with, how much money you make, etc. They. Are. His. And he needs to step up to the plate. I wish is was different for you, too, Gee. And I'm sorry. We're both too nice I think.
Child support is based on income and the division of the physical custody of the children. If you have them more, it is a simple algebra equation where a judge plugs in the overnights spent with each parent and both incomes. Boom! that's it. There is no secret, no raw deal, no short end of the stick. It doesn't matter how much G makes (they are not HIS kids) and child support will NEVER have anything to do with G's income, EVER.
Grrrrrrr.... It sickens me when a parent justify's why they shouldn't pay support for their children. I could go on and ON and ON, but I won't.