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The weather fits my mood today. It is raining and chilly. Last night daughter called me. She told me soldier son says he is not coming home, he is going to stay in Texas. He was supposed to home this saturday, out of the army. The reason he is not coming home is because me and his dad, he says. I have not spoken to him in about 2 months. when he was home on leave it was like he didn't even want to see me or his Dad. Hubby had taken off a day from work so we could take soldier son to the airport. Two days before he left he announced that his grandparents would be taking him. He borrowed $200.00 from us while on leave. He told us he would pay us back when his next paycheck was deposited. Instead he let it take two months to pay us back, using the allottment he had set up. Knowing we were in financial trouble anyway. But it seems he only wants to think about himself, so I stopped answering his phone calls. I also heard some things he is saying about us behind our backs. some of you may remember all the problems we had with daughter when she was living at home. Did it feel good to kick her out of the house? NO! But I knew I had to stop enabling her. And she told me recently that she knows now that I was doing the best thing for her and that is has brought us closer together. And I have seen her grow up into an amazing young woman.
soldier son blames everyone else for his problems. Even blaming his dad for never getting custody of him and his sister. See my husband's parents actually had legal custody, but hubby lived with them the whole time and provided for his children.
So I am thinking there is a different reason he isn't coming home. #1, he doesn't have the money to drive from Texas as he also will have to tow home his other car. He did not get the paperwork done for the army to ship home his other car.
But you know what? I have a 7 year old son who is going through a really tough time right now and that is who I need to focus on. Yesterday at school he mentioned something about his brother to the principal. I am not sure what it was. But Kota was crying about it. I know at one point when soldier son was home, he told kota if he didn't shape up he wouldn't be his bubba anymore. People don't realize the affect this has on such a young boy, one who looks up to you as his hero.
Today kota has counseling. The principal told me they did video tape kota yesterday during some meltdowns. I need to call them and see if I can take the tape with me today to show his counselor.
so that is my day. Ups, downs and in betweens. In other news, it looks like this weekend is going to be beautiful weather. Sunny and warm! I plan on tanning, gardening, playing with kota and picking on hubby.
Matt is the same way. But he does tend to act as if Hunter isn't here.
You do seem to have a lot going on. I agree with Kristy...take a little me time and relax..*hugs*