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Mom's Travels

Yesterday, I recieved a frantic phone call from the daughter
of one of my best friends. It seems her Mom was missing and she had been gone 24 hours. June is 87 and her memory is not the best. She has always been so independent and hates checking in with her children. She
had driven to the town that she had lived in all her life,
had her hair fixed, gone to the bank and being too tired to
drive back home, checked into the Holiday Inn. I am sure
that she enjoyed the escape. However, she had just had
a small stroke a few weeks before and definitely has issues
with memory. Connie put out a silver alert and that with
the threat of taking away her car keys has infuriated June.

I see both sides of the issues. Connie talked to me for
thirty minutes venting her frustration. It is hard to be
responsible for her fiesty mother. They made a huge
mistake forcing her to buy a small house that she hates and
of necessity she is living close to her daughter in a small
college town.

Ted and Bobby and I had a good laugh over her escape. June doesn't look or act her age and we are glad it all
turned out so well but we hope she won't do it again.
None of us know what the years will bring.

posted on July 20, 2012 3:38 AM ()

Comments:

A call to her daughter might have saved everyone a lot of stress. Hopefully, if she decides to do this again, she will remember to do that.
comment by redimpala on July 23, 2012 12:19 PM ()
Sorry- my sympathies are with June. I cannot imagine my son controlling my life... or trying to.
comment by dragonflyby on July 20, 2012 7:13 PM ()
Sometimes we have to give up our independence and that is sad. I have
paid all these years for nursing home insurance so that I would never have
to depend on the children and I can tell you it has been a burden. We need more assisted living centers for people who can still be somewhat
independent.
reply by elderjane on July 21, 2012 3:56 AM ()
That is wonderful.She deserved to pamper herself.Good girl there.Give her a lot of credit.
She knew what she was doing.
comment by fredo on July 20, 2012 9:34 AM ()
You would love June. She and I have laughed our way through a lot of
impossible situations.
reply by elderjane on July 21, 2012 3:57 AM ()
Is this the one that lives in MD? I can see both sides...
comment by kristilyn3 on July 20, 2012 7:15 AM ()
My friend in Maryland died last spring. Her kids are currently enjoying her
money. I am so furious. She was so unhappy because they slapped her in
that retirement home. She saved all her life and never even permitted
herself to have cable tv. All for those rotten kids.
reply by elderjane on July 21, 2012 4:01 AM ()
We had a case like this around here, but the woman was only in her 50s. She was reported missing and a description given on the radio. Some days later the news reported that she called the cops and told them she is fine. LOL The news didn't give details, so her behavior is left to the imagination.
comment by jjoohhnn on July 20, 2012 6:40 AM ()
Knowing June, we couldn't help but laugh. She is having a hard time
severing ties to her home town.
reply by elderjane on July 20, 2012 6:55 AM ()
It's funny, but it's not. I could see you or me doing that kind of thing, perfectly explainable on our end, and everyone on the other end freaking out and remembering the other day when we misplaced our car keys and taking that as a sign of memory slippage.
comment by troutbend on July 20, 2012 6:10 AM ()
I can see the funny side but I can also see myself doing the same thing.
reply by elderjane on July 20, 2012 6:58 AM ()
Well meaning kids often think that if they make Mom, who is now, perhaps, alone, move to be near them that they will enjoy life more. Most times, Mom is just miserable because she has left her friends. An acquaintance I had in New York, in her 70s-80s, gave in and moved to Florida. We shared a therapist and the therapist told me she is now miserable and there is a reason for it. In New York, she was able to pursue her career as an actress and got parts in such series as Law and Order. In Florida, all that dried up. Tell me that being near your kids who have their own lives makes up for that. Only if you have no life.
comment by tealstar on July 20, 2012 5:59 AM ()
For us, it was a good decision, particularly since Bobby got sick. I love being near enough to help out when I can. On the other hand it was good
for my mental health because I have made new friends, most of them younger than I am and I enjoy chatting with people in the neighborhood
as I walk. We are also close enough for Ted's brothers to drop in which he
and I both enjoy. The big mistake Connie made was pressuring June to
buy a small and cramped house. June hates it and I don't blame her. I am
sorry about your friend.
reply by elderjane on July 20, 2012 7:06 AM ()

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