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Missing Family

When I was growing up, our extended family got together on a weekly basis. We seldon spent an entire week at home and often spent the night with my mothers family. Cousins and uncles and aunts were very close. There were never enough beds so we slept on pallets on the floor. I always spent a week with my grandmothers and my favorite aunt in the summer.

Somehow that closeness has gone the way of many good things that are past. There was no air conditioning and people moved their beds outside and slept under the stars. No one would dare do that now just as no one dares leave unlocked doors. Don't get me wrong, air conditioning is wonderful.

Once a year we get together for a family reunion. Not all of the grand nieces and nephews can be pressured to attend.
The small grandchildren have a ball. I may talk to my sister 3 or 4 times a year and we seldom see each other except at the family reunion. What has happened to all of us? I am as guilty as anyone else of being caught up in the dailyness of life. We just don't take the time to nurture family relationships.

Is everyone like us?

posted on Mar 16, 2008 6:28 AM ()

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I think some of the breakdown started when funerals and weddings became optional, and I don't mean just attending them, also having them in the first place. They were such good opportunities to reconnect with family and meet the younger generations. Just as we have to work at nurturing and maintaining friendships, it takes work to keep up family ties. Once the older generation passes, the younger ones who never met each other or maybe only once don't have the incentive to get together.
comment by troutbend on Mar 18, 2008 3:21 PM ()
I'll be posting a blog on our big family reunion soon. Can't wait!
comment by solitaire on Mar 17, 2008 11:10 AM ()
That's so great. I wish my family would do the same.
comment by teacherwoman on Mar 17, 2008 8:19 AM ()
I came from a close family. Wonder how it happens that we drift apart?
comment by sunlight on Mar 17, 2008 12:31 AM ()
I was never close to my family--I 'divorced' my parents when I was 17--haven't seen my brother (or if I have any, any other relative) in over 20 + years--may sound horrible but I don't miss them--I have made my own family and we get along great!
comment by greatmartin on Mar 16, 2008 8:30 PM ()
I see my family a couple times a year - that's it.
I wish I lived closer to them!
comment by kristilyn3 on Mar 16, 2008 3:06 PM ()
I know what you mean it is sad.It makes me think of the song by the Judd's "Grandpa Tell Me About The Good Ole Days".
comment by texastar on Mar 16, 2008 3:01 PM ()
I had the same youth that you did; and I have the same adult experiences. My kids don't even know their own cousins very well.
comment by redimpala on Mar 16, 2008 12:05 PM ()
Yup. I haven't seen my nieces in seven or eight years. I'm from a small family, but we used to meet at my bro's house for Christmas while my ma was alive. One of my brothers moved to Vegas after she died, and the bro with the girls took up boating, so we don't even meet at a campground during the summer any more. I think people just have more to do these days, and as the saying goes, you don't pick your family. So I think people tend to stick with others who share their interests, not people with whom they have to try and get along just because they are related (I'm talking third cousins or great nieces here). Perhaps the whole "family thing" is an old-school idea, but I just don't see the urgency in it.
comment by jjoohhnn on Mar 16, 2008 7:05 AM ()

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