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Health & Fitness > Christmas Before Thanksgiving
 

Christmas Before Thanksgiving

I got a Christmas card today and it brought both tears and
laughter. It was from my friend, June. I have been on her
mind for the last few days and every day she calls me and
asks me how I am. I repeat every thing I told her the day
before. Alzheimer's has wrecked a once fine mind. She was
Director of Nursing at a nearby state college until she
retired. She was one of the most independent women that
I have ever known. We have been friends through thick and
thin for 42 years and believe me there was plenty of thin.

My friend, Celeste is in the heartbreaking grip of this
disease too. She was a brilliant C.P.A. and invested so
wisely and well that she was able to secure the futures of
her daughter and grandsons. Now she is unable to recognize
many of her old friends.

I love them both and am so happy to know that they are cared
for by their families who are patient and kind. They stay
in touch and aren't unhappy, there are just huge gaps in what
they remember and what they are able to process.

Ted has been diagnosed as being in the first stages of this
disease. we immediately put him on the two drugs that we
are told are effective. They are Namenda and Aricept.

It is a horrible disease and more horrible still to know
you have it as Ted and Celeste do. June thinks she is
just forgetful because her children have shielded her from
the knowledge of her diagnosis.

I am hoping against hope for a cure or a vaccine. Dr. Jordan Tang at Oklahoma Medical Research Foundation is
coming close.

posted on Oct 10, 2012 5:00 PM ()

Comments:

I think this is one of the few diseases that I am truly frightened of, especially as I am alone. My son would surely lock me away somewhere.
comment by dragonflyby on Oct 13, 2012 11:43 AM ()
I've heard that doctors don't know how well the medications help with early Alzheimers because they don't get in there truly early before any symptoms at all show up.
comment by troutbend on Oct 12, 2012 8:57 AM ()
I can see that early intervention has helped Celeste because if you didn't
know her well, you probably wouldn't know. She can carry on a sensible
conversation on a surface level. Whereas with Ted's mother, her kids thought
she was joking when she said crazy stuff and she lived alone so it wasn't
evident.
reply by elderjane on Oct 13, 2012 4:33 AM ()
My mom lived for 15 years after being diagnosed with Alzheimer's. She, too, had been a nurse. Her memory and mental capabilities slipped quietly away but her heart, her personality, her sweetness and compassion stayed with her to the end. I know it's not like that for every one. I hope you are as blessed in your journey with it as we have been.
comment by maggiemae on Oct 11, 2012 7:40 PM ()
June and Celeste have remained sweet, a little careless about their
appearance but Ted's mother became a vegetable. I think she went untreated
far too long.
reply by elderjane on Oct 12, 2012 4:58 AM ()
Oh wow, I hadn't heard about Ted having that diagnosis! I am sorry and I hope the meds work ASAP and are effective.
comment by kristilyn3 on Oct 11, 2012 2:09 PM ()
I think this may be the first time I have shared it. We got it early and
no one would could tell just by talking to him. I hope the drugs work.
reply by elderjane on Oct 12, 2012 5:00 AM ()
Although he was never diagnosed, my late husband, Jay, suffered severe memory loss and died at home with 24/7 nursing care covered at first by my company insurance and then by Medicaid when they canceled his case (benevolent sorts, weren't they?) I mourned each loss on a day to day basis -- today he talks, tomorrow he does not; today he swallows, tomorrow he does not; today he nods when I ask, tomorrow he does not. But because he was home, he never forgot me. It's the only way to be with someone you love. There are more hopeful solutions available today than in the 90s. I hope they do well by Ted. My thoughts are with you.
comment by tealstar on Oct 11, 2012 6:44 AM ()
I could never put Ted in a nursing home and I admire you for staying
with Jay. It is a day to day thing, isn't it.
reply by elderjane on Oct 12, 2012 5:02 AM ()
Alzheimer's frightens me. It runs in my family.
comment by nittineedles on Oct 10, 2012 10:17 PM ()
It is the ghost that haunts all of us.
reply by elderjane on Oct 11, 2012 3:19 AM ()
I'm one of the people who would want to know. Recent reports say it starts long before symptoms appear, so it's probably already done. I wonder sometimes when I forget things, but there's more to it than that. Sounds like some people "don't know that they don't remember". I do know when I don't remember. Maybe it's not as scary for those who don't know they don't know.
comment by jjoohhnn on Oct 10, 2012 5:27 PM ()
I was told Alzheimer's isn't forgetting WHERE your glasses are. It's forgetting WHAT your glasses are.
reply by nittineedles on Oct 12, 2012 5:58 PM ()
June is happier not knowing, she thinks she is just forgetful. Celeste
knows and takes the two medications and is a lot more rational than June so
the drugs help. Our Dr. told Ted that he suspected this and that since there was a family history, he needed to get on the drugs pronto. I think that this is probably the way to go.
reply by elderjane on Oct 11, 2012 3:29 AM ()
that time of year is coming fast -Cath has got the cards ready to send --the xmas pageant is only 2 weeks away --some of the floats have been placed for viewing on one of our main city streets, first time its been done
only the other week a possible cure or delaying for alziemers was on our news broadcast same with other cures why is it always 5 years away
comment by kevinshere on Oct 10, 2012 5:11 PM ()
It does seem to be always five years away. Have a good Christmas! I am
not even thinking Thanksgiving yet.
reply by elderjane on Oct 11, 2012 3:36 AM ()

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