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Singleton

Completed a book titled "Going Solo", about the growing trend of living life alone. This applies to a growing number of young people as well as those my age who either are divorced or widowed.

It appears that about half of American "households" are inhabited by only one person. That's not the case around my neck of the woods, but there are a few like me.

We are all pretty much shunned by our coupled neighbors. I've said before that in all my single years here (17), I've never been asked over for dinner or any other social event. For all the free vegetables I've given away to them, one might think they would reciprocate in some fashion (one does bring me cookies occasionally.).

I'm not complaining. It's simply a fact or facet of life in solo land. By the way, my "love life" is non-existent. I've been in minor contact with someone who lives in Florida via the dating (mating?) service I'm with, but that'll never pan out (distance). I flip-flop on my feelings about solitaire vs. duo life. I'm seldom lonely, just alone. How about you other mybloggers "singletons"?

posted on Aug 14, 2012 5:09 AM ()

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Nothing to say so I will just
comment by crazylife on Aug 21, 2012 9:20 PM ()
Right on, except for the little furry ones, who think I'm OK. Relationships, particularly 'live-in' ones, can get very expensive in terms of cash AND emotional costs.
comment by jondude on Aug 16, 2012 5:08 AM ()
Yeah. I just need someone like you to convince me to stop looking or wishing for "Miss Right".
reply by solitaire on Aug 16, 2012 11:05 AM ()
Was on my own after Jay died. It was hard. I can live alone but I think the best life is a shared life. My friend, Inez, however, won't give up any of her space to be with someone. She lives a very negative life generally. I wouldn't want her life and as time goes on, she knows fewer people. To make a friend, be a friend. As for romance, start with friendship.
comment by tealstar on Aug 16, 2012 4:43 AM ()
I consider myself to be fairly outgoing and friendly. But if there's no chocolate on the shelf, I can't buy any.
reply by solitaire on Aug 16, 2012 11:04 AM ()
I lived alone for awhile after Herself flew the coop and it does have its advantages, but they are minor compared to companionship. I've been with Donna for 5+ years already and it feels quite natural. I wouldn't want to return to the minor advantages.
comment by jjoohhnn on Aug 15, 2012 6:00 PM ()
You are among one of the lucky ones. I did try a second time, but things didn't work out. No third time--unless something pops into my life!
reply by solitaire on Aug 16, 2012 11:02 AM ()
I have hoped to find a mate since some time after my divorce 20 years ago but no luck. I don't like the thought of finishing my life alone but it is what it is. Sometimes I feel lonely and sometimes I am just alone.
comment by dragonflyby on Aug 15, 2012 10:10 AM ()
One would think it's more difficult for a woman to find a man (at our age) because of the "taboo" of women looked upon as being "forward". But, as a man, I haven't had much luck either. And the older I get, the pickier I become! Despite being a grandfather, I find it difficult to date a grandmother. So, it is what it is.
reply by solitaire on Aug 16, 2012 11:01 AM ()
comment by kristilyn3 on Aug 15, 2012 8:08 AM ()
I have a wide circle of friends who are single, some divorced, some never married, male and female. Most of us are homeowners, either retired or close to it. We are all happy with our status. There is a lot to be said for friendship.
comment by boots586 on Aug 14, 2012 5:51 PM ()
Lucky you. I have my two sisters and father, that's about it. I miss going out to eat. I never do by myself (unless traveling).
reply by solitaire on Aug 15, 2012 8:04 AM ()
I was single for 34 years and while I groused and complained in the beginning of my twenties, by the time I hit thirty I was quite comfortable with it. In fact, I enjoyed it.
comment by jerms on Aug 14, 2012 1:24 PM ()
Oh I don't think you are. And, yes and no, on the "good old days". Both statuses have their advantages and disadvantages.
reply by jerms on Aug 15, 2012 2:10 PM ()
Were those the "good ol' days", before wife and kid? But yes, living alone has major benefits. I hope I'm not grousing about it.
reply by solitaire on Aug 15, 2012 8:02 AM ()
Sex and The Single Man.Lonely is a terrible mind of waste.
I keep telling you to get a man(kidding)you will not have to flip flop.
Need to take a cruise?meet someone on the love boat.
Should try this.I believed that they have a cruise for single man not sure just thinking.
Maybe a tour in Europe and find a nice Italian woman.She will take care of you
Okay,now the serious stuff.Not sure how your loneliness effect you.
Do you feel it.How about teaching young children how to play golf or improved their game.
There is a ton out there you can do and be very helpful to society.
Your talented.Play the piano and you also can entertain.
I for one cannot stand the thoughts of being lonely.This would have affected me terribly.
Invite people over for dinner.Have a chat.I know that there is something out there for you.
Your not scaring them away are you?Well whatever you do there is something right out there for you.If you were here I give you a big bear hug.
Oh!wait guess I am not a bear
comment by fredo on Aug 14, 2012 9:40 AM ()
Fredo, the answer man! Seriously, I appreciate your words of wisdom. I do want to go to Greece (Corfu Island), but again, I really don't want to go alone. Perhaps a Mediterranean cruise? Never been on a cruise. Anyway, I was mostly simply commenting on the fact that I'm not alone in living alone!
reply by solitaire on Aug 15, 2012 8:00 AM ()

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