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Education > Home Schooling > Mercy, Mercy, Mercy
 

Mercy, Mercy, Mercy

My hat is off to all those grandparents out there that take over the job of raising their grandkids for one reason or another. For the past 3 days, I've been in the business of parenting two, sometimes three, of mine.

My daughter who lives in Honduras is home for a couple of weeks (for several reasons which I won't go into). Her two kids, ages 10 and 8, came with her (and husband). While they did some "running around", I was deemed the official "children watcher". Emily's little boy (3) was added to the mix one day.
Well, add an exclamation point to my post title.

Basically, the kids were good, but there were times when I wanted to go screaming out of the house. Little things, like my granddaughter (age 10) constantly cracking her knuckles (like her father does). That drives me crazy. I used to send students out in the hall for doing that (warnings preceded).
Poor table manners, picky eaters. Yelling, fighting. They were constantly asking me to play with them--cards, games, Barbies, soldiers. (I still have games and toys from my childhood and my own kids!) Very demanding for my attention. Oh, and they coughed and snorted constantly.

Since they were missing 2 weeks of school, they had "take out" homework. The boy is smart, but the girl not so much. She uses her fingers to do her math. Very frustrating, especially knowing her parental "stock" is intelligent. It was all I could do to remain patient. Besides, she could become obnoxious in many ways.

I took them to Dairy Queen yesterday--almost as a peace offering for my admitted sternness (which they desperately needed). What's a grandfather for?

Bottom line-- I survived. Now for some peace and quiet--at least for a few days. They'll be back! I love 'em, but I'm dreading it.


posted on Nov 15, 2012 6:00 AM ()

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Oh, my god, coughing, snorting? inviting you into their games, & knuckle-cracking? Egad, it sounds as if they are -- alive.
comment by drmaus on Nov 19, 2012 1:04 PM ()
Alive and quite active! Sometimes my tolerance and patience is tested.
reply by solitaire on Nov 20, 2012 6:00 AM ()
Glad you survived! I'm with you, I don't know how people can sign on for another round of parenting. We barely survived the first round! Well, actually, I'm not even done with the first round yet, but with five kids, I feel like I've done my part.
comment by maggiemae on Nov 19, 2012 5:43 AM ()
I hear ya. I had 4. Fortunately, they were all great kids.
reply by solitaire on Nov 20, 2012 5:58 AM ()
Oops, I had the ages mixed up. I never counted on getting homework from kids who'd gone on "vacation" during the school year. Kudos to you for getting them to do it at all!
comment by catdancer on Nov 17, 2012 2:17 PM ()
You sound a LITTLE bit like my Grandpa. He was harsh and none of us enjoyed him very much. We didn't see him very often or it might have been different. I actually have a picture of me on a Big Wheel and him with a broom in his hand looking like he'd just love to sweep me off the planet.
comment by kristilyn3 on Nov 17, 2012 11:15 AM ()
I'm not as "harsh" as I'd like to be. I'm really a ##### cat. Those kids need a firm hand.
reply by solitaire on Nov 18, 2012 5:48 AM ()
I might take the drugs myself - it's so much easier to be patient with other people's kids. You taught high school so perhaps didn't have many classes in child development? At 8, kids are changing from the Concrete stage into the Abstract stage so finger counting is pretty common.
comment by catdancer on Nov 16, 2012 6:24 PM ()
Middle school. And she's 10 and a half.
reply by solitaire on Nov 17, 2012 5:10 AM ()
How did the grandson that you see all the time like having to share his grandpa with the cousins?
comment by boots586 on Nov 15, 2012 12:30 PM ()
Good question. He was a little overwhelmed. I noticed he "retreated" a few times. I tried not to exclude him. They're all together for 4 days--fortunately, at Emily's. I'm a little peeved at my daughter and SIL (mostly, since he rules the roost) for dumping their kids on relatives for 2 weeks while they go running around for various reasons. I'm happy to help out and spend some "quality time" with the grandkids, but there is a limit.
reply by solitaire on Nov 16, 2012 5:39 AM ()
not sure what to say.Glad that it is you and not mine.Then again I do not have great relationship with my grandkids.I chose it this way.Not the grandfather type.Selfish?I do not think so.
Have many reason for this and will not go in details.
comment by fredo on Nov 15, 2012 11:12 AM ()
We'll talk about it sometime. I was close to disowning them myself!
reply by solitaire on Nov 16, 2012 5:35 AM ()
Drug the little monsters and go work in the yard while they sleep it off!
comment by steve on Nov 15, 2012 8:37 AM ()
Now you're talking! I'm just glad I had a stationary bike and the punching bag for my overactive grandson to "play" with. He about wore them out!
reply by solitaire on Nov 16, 2012 5:34 AM ()
Can't fault them for being eager for your interaction, you are their grandfather who they don't get to see much after all, but sit them down and go over the rules of your home when they come next. And have some outings planned to get them out of the house. Maybe that will help all of you have a better time.
comment by marta on Nov 15, 2012 7:24 AM ()
They are from the tropics and have thin blood... We ease into the cold gradually. It's our hardy pioneer stock, doncha know?
reply by boots586 on Nov 16, 2012 6:51 AM ()
We went outdoors once to "check on things outside", but they got cold quickly. I had plenty of ideas for things to do. It's just their way of doing them that's aggravating. And they know the house rules. I don't know how many times they "forgot" and would say "I'm sorry".
reply by solitaire on Nov 16, 2012 5:31 AM ()
Talk to their parents -- it's a thankless task, I know. They won't love you for it. I lost a friend because I told him he was enabling his daughter to be a total brat.
comment by tealstar on Nov 15, 2012 6:19 AM ()
The kid's parents know all about their foibles. Hopefully, they'll grow out of "it". That's the common solution!
reply by solitaire on Nov 16, 2012 5:27 AM ()

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