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Life & Events > Relationships > Family Doings
 

Family Doings

Sometimes I use my "post time" as a diary (although I already keep a journal). This is one of those times.

Barb (sister) and I visited my daughter, SIL, and grandson yest. PM. The boy is 10 mos. old and close to walking. I played with him and helped feed him. I think he likes me.

The parents are really struggling with their "truck farming" business. Sick chickens, too much rain and heat, weeds, poor business, etc. They are really despondent. Emily was canning tomatoes. I'm so proud of her, she being the "black sheep" of my 3 daughters (youngest--now 32). She's a dental hygienist, farm hand, and full time mother. Who would have thunk it?

Again, her mother, my ex-wife, was there (theoretically helping canning). I swear, every time I'm there, she's there. We get along okay, but she's crazy/loony. And bossy. For once, I'd like to spend time with my "kids" without her being around. But she's such a big help to the farming operation, that they can't say "stay home". And they just don't have the time to come visit me. Perhaps this winter.

Everything else is okay. Dog bite healing (still bruised). I ran 3 miles without stopping Sat. Was up and out before breakfast this morning jogging. I don't know of any 67 year olds do what I do. Not bragging, just commenting. I'm now leaving to go play golf with some ex-teaching buddies. (They're still teaching and school starts next week. Hee hee)

You all have a good week. And thanks for reading my posts. I'm trying to read all yours when I have the time.

posted on Aug 9, 2010 5:54 AM ()

Comments:

I wonder how many of us you've shamed into exercising?
comment by drmaus on Aug 12, 2010 10:55 AM ()
Ha! I doubt even one. Besides, that's not my intent.
reply by solitaire on Aug 12, 2010 5:13 PM ()
Thanks. My daughter understands how I don't particularly like the situation. I've never "bad-mouthed" her mother in their presence, so she doesn't really fathom my deep down resentment. I liked your phrase "forced proximity"!
comment by solitaire on Aug 10, 2010 5:53 AM ()
What did I miss? I read all your posts but how did I miss the dog bite? I really miss running but the doctor says no. I had started walking on the track but when the temps hit 100 I stopped. The humidity is also extremely high which makes it hard for me to breathe. I think it's fantastic that you are able to run...keep it up as long as possible.
comment by gapeach on Aug 9, 2010 4:39 PM ()
The dog "bite" was superficial--just a playful (I think) chomp into my upper leg/hip. No blood but bruised. I beat the heat this morning by running before sunrise. Still humid (and warm). Walking is good. Hopefully, you'll be back on the track soon.
reply by solitaire on Aug 10, 2010 6:18 AM ()
How's your sister's eye?
comment by greatmartin on Aug 9, 2010 4:18 PM ()
Nothing wrong with your memory, Martin! Her eye is the same. Just waiting for the blood to dissipate. She can't see very well out of it. She'll go back to the Dr. in 2 weeks.
reply by solitaire on Aug 10, 2010 6:15 AM ()
Exercise bores me but I do it because I need to stay strong now that
Ted is not up to par.
comment by elderjane on Aug 9, 2010 1:33 PM ()
Did you use the phrase "up to par" for my benefit? But you're right. You have to stay strong and able. In my case, I'm just doing it because I'm crazy!
reply by solitaire on Aug 10, 2010 6:13 AM ()
I admire your physical stamina but do think you may need to let your daughter know that you would like some time with her and her family without her loony mother around. Good grief! She should understand that you divorced because you did NOT want to be together, and if you wanted to be bossed around by her, you would still be married to her.
comment by dragonflyby on Aug 9, 2010 11:04 AM ()
I know, I know. It's just not that easy. In this last case, Emily needed help canning tomatoes, and if her mother is willing to assist, well, I can manage my feelings. She knows how I feel. Besides, my ex (Lisa) probably feels the same about my being there!
reply by solitaire on Aug 10, 2010 6:10 AM ()
My dad rides his bike all around the lake and he's 66 so, it's close! That and he is rarely found sitting down relaxing...
Do you call her the black sheep?
comment by kristilyn3 on Aug 9, 2010 10:21 AM ()
Great for your dad. I have a seldom used bike. Black sheep? Her two older sisters were "smarties" with college degrees. Emily was "average", got into some high school troubles, dropped out of college for 2 yrs before returning to become a dental hyg. She'd be the first to admit her youthful indiscretions--probably more than I want to hear and know about! But she's "grown up", responsible, and reliable--a great daughter.
reply by solitaire on Aug 10, 2010 6:06 AM ()
tealstar is right .Talk to daughter and let her know the feelings there.
comment by fredo on Aug 9, 2010 9:57 AM ()
Right. See my reply to Teal.
reply by solitaire on Aug 10, 2010 6:01 AM ()
Way to go, Randy! You'll live to be a 103, maybe more. We're taking it easy today. Going to GDL to pick up my mother-in-law. Some nice people in her church paid her ticket so she could come out and be with Jenn. Wasn't that nice? Now, I have to be on my best behaviour.
comment by jerms on Aug 9, 2010 9:36 AM ()
Keeping in shape will probably kill me! But I'll go out feeling good. MILs can be angels or demons. I'm betting on yours being the former. Lots of luck!
reply by solitaire on Aug 10, 2010 5:58 AM ()
Congratulations on your physical regimen and perseverance. There is one fellow in this area, in his 60s, who jogs as much as 20 miles daily, following a heart episode that brought him to the religion of exercise. I don't know of any others. Your title is reasonably safe. Why not discuss with your daughter how you'd like to be with her and the kids without contact with her mother at least occasionally. Surely, as an adult, she can understand that you might find the forced proximity a strain when it is a constant, Good luck.
comment by tealstar on Aug 9, 2010 7:01 AM ()
My reply is somewhere else on this page!
reply by solitaire on Aug 10, 2010 6:00 AM ()

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