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Life & Events > Relationships > Ah, the Silence
 

Ah, the Silence

It's an age old question I'm frequently asked: "What are you doing on the 4th, or Father's Day, or your birthday, or for Christmas, etc.?" Like I have something special planned for that special day.

Let me tell you. Once upon a time, not so long ago it seems, I was married, had four children, remarried, had three step children, which adds up to 7 in one household. On top of that, I taught seventh grade for 32 years with 120 savages per day assaulting my senses. In other words, I had kids up to my eyeballs 24/7, plus two crazy wives.

NOW ask me what I'm doing for Halloween, Labor Day, Thanksgiving. Easy. NOTHING! No cookouts, no camping trips, no going to the lake, no yard games, no going to the movies, no nothing. Thanks for asking.

I'm solitaire, and I'm FREE! I don't have to do anything, go anywhere, do any chores. And there's no punch line saying "I'm bored".

I enjoyed those "special" days with my children, and I enjoy those same days now without them. Ah, peace and quiet! Have a safe Independence Day everyone!

posted on July 4, 2008 6:35 AM ()

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Didn't have kids, so haven't been there and done that. But I've been a kid and did stuff with my family. Only regret is when my late husband
was dying, I might have gotten some comfort out of an offspring who could share the grief. Assuming, of course, I had a raised a good kid who would have been there.
comment by tealstar on July 11, 2008 12:10 PM ()
I totally get it. After a first marriage that celebrated everything BIG FAMILY style from birthdays, Confirmations to first "poops", I enjoy just doing nothing and celebrating nothing from time to time.
comment by shesaidwhat on July 11, 2008 4:01 AM ()
Guess we've worked out the living easy thing in our lives. No expectations. Tell each other what we'd like to do. Freedom to say yes/no. Interject spontaneity once in awhile. Fine to do absolutely nothing. Hey - it takes practice to learn how to do just that... so yeah, we did nothing on the 4th either. Unless you count watching a dvd and eating Haagen Dazs something.
comment by november on July 6, 2008 4:47 PM ()
What a great fourth. Some day I will be there enjoying silence hopefully I will still be breathing!
comment by wickedwitchofthewest on July 5, 2008 8:22 PM ()
No I haven't read it... thanks, I'll get it. As for having a partner, after 42 years we are so in tune it's like there's only one person here, very relaxing.
comment by clovis on July 5, 2008 5:39 PM ()
Very wise! I share your sentiments.
comment by clovis on July 4, 2008 11:58 PM ()
You have earned the right to celebrate however you wish doing whatever you wish. Enjoy every minute — and I'm lighting a sparkler in honor of Peace and Quiet!
comment by marta on July 4, 2008 7:46 PM ()
comment by imaginaryfriend on July 4, 2008 7:17 PM ()
I know how much I love/need my alone time!!! Especailly this last year, since both of my daughters had moved back in!! Good news all around, Diana is moving back to Sacramento and working at UPS and taking medical classes!!! By July 21. Now Ayla on the other hand, still receives her mail here but is rarely here now adays...the peace and quiet is exactly that....peaceful and quiet!!! I have friends, that cannot yet appreciate thier solitude and I wonder how they do it???!! It is my time and I am grateful for it!! I totally get what you are saying Randy!! The reading alone is worth it!!!
comment by darkstar on July 4, 2008 2:19 PM ()
Freedom's just another word for... doing whatever you want! Happy Fourth!
comment by sunlight on July 4, 2008 11:56 AM ()
Wonderful post!! Happy Fourth!!
comment by looserobes on July 4, 2008 7:58 AM ()
I "get" that alone does not mean lonely, and that your privacy and peace are important to you. As for me, I do not yet want to give up the days that celebrate those things that matter most in life, like family and country. I do not think of it as an intrusion on my personal preference for solitude. Celebrating "special" days has taken on a new importance to me due to recent events in my life. Life is important! I want to reaffirm that with everything that I do.
comment by dragonflyby on July 4, 2008 7:10 AM ()
you too! I'm not so free though, I get to burn my fingers shooting off grounders for my son and his friends
comment by ducky on July 4, 2008 7:06 AM ()

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