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As if my depression hasn't been bad enough, my Mom got to a phone this morning at her care center and called me, spewing such evil crap that I have never heard from her lips before this. She has these spells and today's was the worst yet. I keep asking them to get her meds right so she doesn't threaten to walk back to California or "go home" wherever that is.

What she called me and what she said about me hurt.

I realize dementia does these things, but I can't take much more of this. I am going to double my Welbutrin.

posted on July 1, 2010 7:37 AM ()

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Jon - do you have power of attorney for her medical stuff? It would help get them to talk to you. It's so hard to listen to them when they go off like that, isn't it? I hate it too. I know your mom would hate it if she knew she was doing it.
Perhaps it's time for an adjustment or change to her meds. You might try getting in to talk to her doc or the nurse in the home.

comment by catdancer on July 8, 2010 9:46 PM ()

It really makes me feel good, Jondude, to read these comments that are so caring and understanding about your dear mother's illness. I know that it makes you feel better, too. I'm sorry that you (and she) have to go through this.

comment by mindanaomike on July 5, 2010 1:04 PM ()

Dear Jon, all the comments made so far are relevant. Your mother is not responsible and the person she really is does not have these thoughts. You cannot internalize the free-form anger she spouts when she is not herself. It has nothing to do with you and if she could have a lucid moment and remember, she would be devastated. So, hang in there, and hope you get her meds regulated soon.

comment by tealstar on July 2, 2010 8:40 AM ()

I know this hurts you. Very sad. Hopefully, they will get her meds straightened out.

comment by dragonflyby on July 2, 2010 8:07 AM ()

Oh Jon, I saw Ted's pretty, gentle mother turn into an incontinent, untidy
shrew. Sorry you had to go through this. Try to remember her as she was.
That's what we do.

comment by elderjane on July 2, 2010 6:32 AM ()

I went over to see her at Noon. She was in her room, napping with a book on her chest. Like always. I took her out and drove to the Art Guild Gallery. She had never been to the new gallery and I gave her the cook's tour. Then I drove to Bob Evans and we had a lunch. She was fine and did not remember the incident or the phone call. I asked her if she was still angry and thought I was a "good-for-nothin (###)hole..." as she had stated on the phone. But she denied even saying such things. She could not remember it.

reply by jondude on July 2, 2010 6:42 AM ()

Jon the mother that you know in love is still there, it's just that this disease has overtaken her and robbed her of who she is. Hope everything gets better.

comment by redwolftimes on July 1, 2010 5:48 PM ()

I've been through this with my mother. They finally got her medications regulated and she is much better. A call to the nursing home might be in order.

comment by redimpala on July 1, 2010 9:55 AM ()

Hang in there buddy. I love Supertramp....

comment by kristilyn3 on July 1, 2010 9:26 AM ()

Take a few NATIONAL TAKE NO CRAP DAYS!!!

comment by greatmartin on July 1, 2010 8:48 AM ()

That wasn't her, Jon, that was someone else. Remember that time you went to the fair and she was there with her old folks group and you had a nice visit? Those are the times to remember.

comment by troutbend on July 1, 2010 8:17 AM ()

I am so sorry. It is so tough on the families and loved ones of people of those who suffer from the various forms of dementia. Just know that you are a wonderful person!
AJ

comment by lunarhunk on July 1, 2010 8:08 AM ()

And listen to Supertramp while I paint. Particularly the song titled "Hide In Your Shell." because that's what I'm going to do today. I declare this NATIONAL TAKE NO CRAP DAY.

comment by jondude on July 1, 2010 7:53 AM ()

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