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The Ups and Downs

Things have been running fairly smoothly here in the household. The temps are dropping and it's a wonderful time of year. Today one of our local towns has an apple/scrapple festival. Lots of vendors, entertainment and of course great food! I promised Dakota we would go today. I checked the weather, it's going to be sunny but only a high of 59! And I might need to take my cane, been having problems with my left knee. And it really hurts this morning. I did buy some glucosamine chondrotin pills and I am hoping they will help.

We have a new kitten. This is kind of a sad story but I thought I would share it anyway. About a month ago while sitting on our porch we could hear a cat crying very loudly. My daughter, hubby and I located the kitten across the street in some bushes. Daughter was finally able to rescue him and we brought him home. He was a beautiful, tiny, gray tiger striped who we named tiger of course. He was so loving and playful. We decided to keep him in our back room for safety. He was so tiny, we didn't want him getting into trouble. A week after we had rescued him my hubby and my stepson had a big argument. I was upstairs sleeping at the time. Hubby went to take some trash out to the dumpster and he slammed the back door. Tiger had run to get out the door and was caught in the door. His neck was broken. Hubby was devastated. He came to tell me and I just lost it. In a week's time I had become so attached to this little guy. Dakota was even more devastated. I had to do something quick because Dakota has been having a very rough time. I called an ad in the paper for kittens. The guy told me he didn't live far from me and we could meet up at the convenience store. I told him all I wanted was a male cat, didn't matter what color. Guess what color he brought? A gray tiger stripe. Dakota and I named him lucky cat. He is a playful little guy and adores his boy. He likes to run between your legs like any normal cat would. Lucky gives kitten kisses to my granddaughter Bella. She follows the cat around meowing at him.

My job is going really well. I love it there! I have a nice little group of friends and our boss is the best. She is fair and always has an open door policy for venting.

Things are going smoothly now for us. But hanging over our heads is still the court case. It was supposed to go to trial back in september but once again the defense side has delayed it. I will divulge what this about. Back in May Dakota came to me and let me know he had been molested at the babysitter's. These people were my best friends! And now they are acting as if they are the victim's. They have been telling everyone we made up the story because we were mad at them. They can spread whatever lies they want. The prosecutor would not have taken the case without evidence that something had happened. Dakota and I will both have to testify at trial. And that has him very scared and upset. The one who molested him was like his best friend. He doesn't want to face him at trial. Please keep my boy in your thoughts and prayers. He is going to counseling once a week and his therapist is wonderful. This is something she specializes in. She also makes a point to talk to me each week, kind of a two for one deal. lol

That's all for now. I need to go get ready to go to the festival!

posted on Oct 13, 2012 5:46 AM ()

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ARG! How frustratingly angry you must be about your Koda! Grrr...
But I must say I am happy to hear that things are going well on other fronts, and that he is getting the help he needs. What a brave little guy for even considering taking the stand. Eek. You are all in my thoughts 100%.
comment by kristilyn3 on Oct 20, 2012 9:16 AM ()
thanks kristi! he is a brave 'little' guy. he is almost as tall as me already! for the most part he is doing ok. having some separation anxiety though.
reply by elkhound on Oct 20, 2012 11:36 AM ()
I am so sorry about what happened. I know first hand how devastating this can be. If you read about the Sandusky trial, you will see that denial and reverse accusations is typical of molesters. Dakota is very fortunate that he could come to you and be taken seriously. Having a good counselor will help as well. My heart goes out to you all!
comment by maggiemae on Oct 15, 2012 7:26 AM ()
the child advocate we saw at first said how unusual it is for the child to actually tell a parent. I am very proud of Dakota for telling me
reply by elkhound on Oct 20, 2012 5:29 AM ()
Sorry to hear about Dakota having to go through a trial and all. Best of luck. I take glucosamine, but in sulphate form. Cheaper. Who knows if it does any good? I think it does, only because I have no joint problems (except arthritis).
comment by solitaire on Oct 14, 2012 5:13 AM ()
I might break down and go to a doc about the knee. I keep forgetting to take my glucosamine pills so they aren't working for me yet.
reply by elkhound on Oct 20, 2012 5:30 AM ()
My father in law brought a very young kitten he had found to us just had his eyes open, my wife bottled fed it and it survived , we called it taggles best mouser we have ever had and he certainly paid in kind
comment by kevinshere on Oct 13, 2012 7:57 PM ()
I am hoping our Lucky Cat will become a mouser! we sure have enough mice for him to feast on!
reply by elkhound on Oct 20, 2012 5:31 AM ()
You are doing the right thing. Dakota has a therapist and plenty of support
at home. The same thing happened to my son and our neighbors boy. They
were molested by a thirteen year old neighbor boy. The police put a lot
of pressure on the neighbors and they moved away and got the teenager in
counseling so we were spared a trial. Both kids turned out fine. They
were just six when it happened and may have forgotten it ever happened.
It took less than a week for those neighbors to leave. This bears out what
Laura said.
comment by elderjane on Oct 13, 2012 11:22 AM ()
this will be strike two for this person, who is an adult. he is mentally like that of a 16 yr old. one of my 'friends' said, he will probably be sent to a mental hospital and be out in a year. I really wanted to smack her and say thanks for the kind words!
reply by elkhound on Oct 20, 2012 5:34 AM ()
I hope things work out with that trial. It sounds like all the delaying tactics are an admission of guilt, and they think if they drag it out long enough, you'll drop the charges so as to not have it hanging over your head. I don't know if you watch Intervention, but a lot of adult addicts on there talk about how they were molested as a child, and their parents didn't do anything about it, so whatever the outcome, Dakota is going to see that you tried really hard to get justice for him, and he's going to know that he did what he could to deal with it.

I saw John Walsh (America's Most Wanted) on a talk show a few months ago, and he said don't ever trust teenage boys to babysit your kids - never take the chance, no matter how well you think you know them. I was surprised at what a sweeping statement that was, but I suppose it's based on the male libido and particularly in teenagers.

I'm sorry about the cat, but those things happen. Pretend you live on a farm or out in the woods where the circle of life is right there all the time. And now you have your Lucky kitty. Hugs.
comment by troutbend on Oct 13, 2012 7:50 AM ()
I came across something interesting about the person who molested my son. Turns out his biological father is also a sexual predator in a different state. It is not in our hands to drop the charges, the state has taken over the case and intend on prosecuting come hell or high water! The prosecutor is wonderful. We had a meeting with him to get to know him. Him and Dakota talked about cartoons and who their favorites are. but when it comes to child molesters, he is like a dog with a bone! he won't give up or take a soft plea bargain.
reply by elkhound on Oct 20, 2012 5:37 AM ()

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