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Parenting & Family > Stressed
 

Stressed

I am a worrier, and an anxious person. So all these things that have been going on are taking their toll on my. Last night I was just so stressed. I just wanted to sit in a quiet room.
counseling went well I think. First she talked to both me and kota. Then I got kicked out. Well while I was in there, kota wouldn't talk, and was hiding behind me. So the whole time I was in the waiting room I was worrying. When the counselor came and got me she had a big smile on her face. I asked if kota talked. She said, oh yes we had a nice chat. She also has all these toys in the counseling room. She explained my insurance will cover 20 visits and then said, I don't think we will need that many. So that was a relief.
Next week I have to go to the admin office of the school for the bus hearing. Kota got written up last week and is suspended from the bus. If you get written up 7 times you are kicked off and have to go to this bus hearing. Which leads to another problem. He has a field trip tomorrow. Because he is suspended from the bus, he is not allowed to ride any school bus. But if I want to drive I can take Kota with me. They are going to the Salisbury zoo. I guess its about an hour away. I told daughter and she said since she is off tomorrow, she will go with us too.
I still do not think all these problems are Kota's fault. And I really hope that bus driver isn't at the bus hearing. She is a total ass!
So lots of stress for me, I don't handle stress well. I internalize everything and it gets to the point it starts affecting my health. Which is the point I am at now. Nothing major, just some aches and pain, fatigue, not wanting to do anything.
Also I am letting everthing irritate me. Last night I went to throw something out. The trash can was overflowing and had spilled onto the floor. Hubby was in the kitchen at the time. I ripped the bag out of the can. He said he would take care of it. I said, but why must you wait until it gets like this and I fed up! Then I shut up and went to the bedroom.
In lighter news, Kota was hysterical in karate class last night. He had everyone laughing so hard, even the parents. They were doing this warm up where they have to race and touch different cones around the room. He was running in these big circles, rather than a straight line. But his team still won! They had a good time laughing at him. And he was also laughing so hard he could hardly run.

posted on May 7, 2008 6:26 AM ()

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Parenting is SO HARD!!! My heart goes out to you! I remember when my kids were young, it was so difficult to know what to believe sometimes and what to do!
comment by hayduke on May 8, 2008 9:24 AM ()
Ok - now do as I say, not as I do......you have to work on not worrying and stressing. (This coming from the queen of worrying and stressing!!) Funny though, I can look back at stuff and think "why on earth did I worry about that.....what a waste of time". Ahhhh - easier said than done. But peace will help you a whole lot more. I'm working on trying not to worrying.....I have a long way to go!
Kota is such a little sweetie.....I wish I could meet him. You hang in there! And lots of big ol' hugs for Kota....and even more for YOU!!!!!
comment by dakmom on May 8, 2008 6:19 AM ()
I love Martin's Rule #1! I do understand the feelings of stress. It's easy to become stressed when you're a mom. There are so many things in this world to cause us stress. Hope things get better. Fatigue is always a sign of stress! Take care of yourself.
comment by sunlight on May 7, 2008 9:40 PM ()
I'm at that exact point you are Mary
comment by firststarisee on May 7, 2008 8:14 PM ()
Rule # 1 AJ is the official worrier here--he handles all and everyone's stress--got that????
comment by greatmartin on May 7, 2008 7:35 PM ()
Mary, I went through the same kind of stuff with younger son. Don't stress, honest. It, as everything else that is a trial, shall pass. Love ya.
comment by teacherwoman on May 7, 2008 5:33 PM ()
You do seem to be having a very stressful time right now. All I can suggest is that you take one day at a time, deal with one issue as it comes up. I know it's easier said than done because I was feeling the sme way yesterday, broke down in work - everything. I'm sending you some hugs from across the pond here, I really do hope everything works out for you. (((Hugs))) to Kota, he's going through this aswell, he's sounds like he's doing ok, he sounds like a star in Karate - carrying on regardless. i look at the kids in my club, they're so tough and never seem to let anything worry them. I think we could all learn from them
comment by lynnie on May 7, 2008 3:03 PM ()
I'm sorry you are going through so much right now. I think going to the zoo will be a lot of fun for you and your children. Sounds like Kota really likes his karate class. Take some time for you today.
comment by hopefields on May 7, 2008 2:46 PM ()
I'm sorry you are going through this. Sometimes the things we dread end up being not as bad as we had envisioned them. Like Elfie said one day at a time.
comment by texastar on May 7, 2008 1:51 PM ()
Just take it a day at a time Mary, ask yourself...is this something I can do something about right now..if it isn't...then you need to let it go. Relax... My hubby does stress mgmt classes and one of the things he tells him clients is pick a "worry time" and then forget about it. If your worry time is 6:00pm then at that time sit in a chair for 20 min and worry, after that time...forget about it untill your worry time. And if you think about something before your time ..just say to yourself no...I'm not going to worry about this now, I will worry about it...when ever your time is to worry.
comment by elfie33 on May 7, 2008 1:11 PM ()
Okay, Mary...it's official. It's time for you and Kota to have a Canadian vacation. I am going to be in that country of yours from May 16th until May 20th and I suggest that you come home with me! No cooking, no cleaning and the garbage will never overflow!But seriously, Mary... try to take some time for yourself. How did your craft room organizing go? Are you able to make some jewelry to relax?One thing at a time...the counselling, the bus hearing, the field trip, etc. Just take it all one at a time.
comment by janetk on May 7, 2008 9:13 AM ()
I am just as much of a worrier so I can understand. The good news is that you are taking the steps to reolve the issue so it can only get better.
AJ
comment by lunarhunk on May 7, 2008 8:38 AM ()
I'm glad you have Kota making you laugh. What's that they say? Laughter is the best medicine? Hang in there. Things will work out just fine.
comment by kristilyn3 on May 7, 2008 6:40 AM ()

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