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Parenting & Family > Motherhood > Small Update
 

Small Update

I am still here, dealing with stuff. I don't feel too bad right now. Although Kota had an in school suspension today. A kid was calling him names and kota swung his bookbag at him.
So I told kota, from now on say something nice to the person. Like, thats a cool shirt you're wearing! I like your shoes! You have a pretty smile! I told him as long as he continues to lose his temper, they will continue to taunt him. The thing is, when he is away from his class, he gets all his work done and they have no problems with him. Ugh! Its not like I can afford to get him a private tutor to teach him. He is going to have to learn how to deal with kids.
tomorrow is friday, so I will have made it through another week. Two weeks of school left. Thank you for all of your prayers and encouragement. I will return to my usual self one day. But I don't want to just write when things are so bad and write about all the bad things kota is doing. I just love that kid so much and it hurts so bad to see him struggling.
At the end of the day I am just exhausted from the stress. I have been trying to find a tai chi instructor around here but no luck so far. The hospital offers it for cancer patients but thats all I have found so far. I think something like that would help me alot.
peace love and happiness

posted on May 15, 2008 5:43 PM ()

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well,you have all of the comment above helping you.
Something got to give.
comment by fredo on May 16, 2008 9:56 AM ()
I agree with Hopefields. You should document everything that happens down to when you speak to him as well and how his reactions are when you tell him about his behavior. If your going to seek professional help this will help them as well.

I use to tell my kids to either ignore the name calling or say something polite like "Why thank you" this will make the other kid mad but they will come to realize that he isn't going to retaliate back in what they say to him. It is difficult because name calling does hurt.
comment by blogdreamz on May 16, 2008 6:14 AM ()
Mary, my kids school district has a "no tolerance for bullying" document that they each much sign at the beginning of the school year. The district takes very seriously teasing, bullying, picking on other kids. The kids teasing Kota are fully responsible for instigating Kota and it's a shame they can't be dealt with. Hang in there Mary, I feel for you. You're doing the best you can do and schools almost out. You'll have the summer to work with Kota on better reactions to deal with these types of situations for the next school year. Take care of yourself.
comment by shesaidwhat on May 16, 2008 5:18 AM ()
agree with hopefields....why aren't these kids who tease Kota being delt with? sounds like a meeting with the other kids' parents, the principal and you is in order. find out what the other parents' major malfuction is.

reguards
yer getting to the bottom of it pal
bugg
comment by honeybugg on May 16, 2008 1:14 AM ()
I agree with Jon and Hopefields. Document all of this. I had to do this when Nathan was in school and it paid off believe me.
comment by texastar on May 15, 2008 9:38 PM ()
In junior high I got bullied by two kids. It happened all the time. My way then was to not fight them but to just walk away. That only worked once, and the second time they came after me after school and beat the heck out of me. So I waited it out and in high school I was kind of a baseball star. The school kids liked me for that and when those two same guys tried to pick a fight with me in the 10th grade, I suddenly had some very strong allies. They never bothered me again.

My dad always told me to "bide my time," and that I would get a chance to pay them back.

About ten years after we graduated, one of them was killed in a bar fight somewhere. The other one did a long sentence in prison for burglarizing an inhabited dwelling.

Society did the payback.

Get Dakota to see that he has to think before he speaks and think twice before he acts. Good advice, just like my Dad's was.
comment by jondude on May 15, 2008 8:04 PM ()
and by the way, I like your suggestion about saying that's a nice shirt or whatever - kill em with kindness!
comment by kristilyn3 on May 15, 2008 7:18 PM ()
comment by firststarisee on May 15, 2008 7:06 PM ()
comment by greatmartin on May 15, 2008 6:20 PM ()
What happened to the kid that was calling Kota names? Was he suspended as well? Or is it only no tolerance to the victims of bullies? This makes me so upset! Hang in there, Mary, I know it's hard, but hang in there. Kota observes everyone throughout this trial, even you and your reactions. It will get better.
comment by hopefields on May 15, 2008 6:19 PM ()
Poor Kota. He will get better at finding ways to deal with things with time.
AJ
comment by lunarhunk on May 15, 2008 6:02 PM ()
{{{{{HUGS}}}}}
You're doing fine, and you will get through this. 2 weeks.
comment by kristilyn3 on May 15, 2008 5:56 PM ()

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