I have not talked about my soldier son in a long time. And there are reasons for that. I am so angry and hurt. Sometimes I don't know who he is anymore. Was it Iraq that changed him? That turned him into someone I don't recognize? I no longer answer the phone when he calls. I am tired of all the lies. He can't even keep his lies straight anymore. I am so tired of people walking all over me that I am stopping it now. Even if its my son. And hubby feels the same way, he is also very hurt. Our son does not accept responsibilty for anything. He blames everyone else. Or makes up elaborate stories to cover his issues.
My daughter tried to set him straight last night but he hung up on her. She is the one person I can always count on to stick up for me. While our son was here on leave he got a new cell phone and then added his sister to his plan. They can each access their account online to pay their share of the bill. And daughter has been doing that. But our son has not. Her phone has been acting up and when she went to the store they told her they could not do anything because of the past due balance on the account. Our son doesn't care. It doesn't affect him so he just doesn't care.
My husband and I are done catering to him. We have been hurt too much. He will be getting out of the army in the next few months and returning here. We have tried to talk to him about getting some counseling, he doesn't want to hear it. There is nothing more I can do, I can no longer be his enabler. He will have to live with his decisions and face up to his responsibilities. I am tired of people I love hurting me and thinking its ok. That I will always be there. I can only do what is best for me, hubby, kota and my daughter. My daughter is a beautiful person, inside and out. I am so proud of her and how she is facing life. I am proud to be a part of her life. And one day I hope to be proud of my son again. Sometimes tough love is the answer.