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Life & Events > Spectacular Mistakes

Spectacular Mistakes

I look back over my life and I have certainly made a
lot of mistakes. Most of them have been made out of
love. However, I have hurtled headlong into life without
much deliberation and when I married Ted, it was with
my eyes wide open and my chorus of critics chirping in my
ears. I said the marriage might end but in the meantime
I would choose to be happy. Ted said the l8 years age
difference meant nothing to him, (he is eighteen years
younger).

Who knew that thirty years later, I would be caring for
him? It is not a burden at this point because he is only
a bit confused and he is loving and supportive. I don't
think I could have survived Bobby's loss without him and
without my daughter who loved her brother fiercely.

I believe that the essence of any life is love. That
is the legacy that really matters.

posted on Jan 15, 2016 6:27 AM ()

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I grieved for Jay every day during his years long decline. Still, it took three years before I remarried. We all grieve in our own way. I have gone on with my life because the alternative is death. Jay once told me that those who commit suicide do not realize that only by staying alive do you solve your problems. The legacy of his wisdom lives within me in a way that makes me think I became him. His memory is an obbligato in my life. Men are different. I don't think they tolerate emotional pain in the same way women do. My Greek background is a factor. Greek women are strong and stoical in the face of tragedy. Mom was my role model.

comment by tealstar on Jan 17, 2016 8:24 AM ()

I think you're correct about widowers. I was rather surprised when our (former?) blogging buddy (who is still on fb I believe) got involved so quickly with someone new after the love of his live pass unexpectedly.

comment by jjoohhnn on Jan 16, 2016 9:38 AM ()

Men are used to the comfort of having a wife and are not reluctant to
replace it. Widows, if comfortably off, often choose to relish their
independence and lack of wifely tasks and prize it over having the
comfort of a loving presence in their lives.

reply by elderjane on Jan 17, 2016 5:54 AM ()

I have seen that many times. My best friends mom died when she was in her 20's and her Dad remarried within the year. They had been the "ideal" family in my mind! My friend was reeling of course but I don't think men can deal as well on their own for some reason after having been married for awhile.

same goes for the dude u mentioned.

reply by kristilyn3 on Jan 16, 2016 7:22 PM ()

Hi ----heck i know i have made many boo boos in my life but have managed to get this far and even with one eye am traveling easy

comment by kevinshere on Jan 16, 2016 4:10 AM ()

thank you

reply by kevinshere on Jan 17, 2016 10:41 PM ()

So glad to see you back with us!!

reply by elderjane on Jan 17, 2016 5:55 AM ()

If you'd made really big, important mistakes, you wouldn't be here on MyBloggers at the age you are now, writing about it to your friends, you'd be dead or gaga in a nursing home.

comment by troutbend on Jan 15, 2016 6:54 PM ()

Ga Ga in a nursing home is my very worst fear.

reply by elderjane on Jan 16, 2016 3:18 AM ()

Many widows live alone for 20 years and longer unable or unwilling to make a new commitment. On the other hand, we know several couples are together in their 70s and beyond. When anybody at 4C Camp for Adults would shay that they are too old to learn something new, sweet ole Betty would say that her husband Irv was taking the _______ Workshop and he's 90. Great attitude, I think it's partly the attitude that keeps people going. I try to keep that approach to live myself: so far, so good.

comment by jjoohhnn on Jan 15, 2016 6:51 PM ()

Widowers seem to be able to start over more easily than widows. My
sister, who has settled for a partner, does not want the legal complications and the complications of adult children. It works beautifully for her.

reply by elderjane on Jan 16, 2016 3:35 AM ()

I'm glad you have each other and your daughter as well. I think we all have made tremendous mistakes in this life!

comment by kristilyn3 on Jan 15, 2016 8:06 AM ()

My daughter lives in Tulsa and we talk every day. I sure wish she was
closer.

reply by elderjane on Jan 15, 2016 12:34 PM ()

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