Angie, my friend, it is so nice to see you back. You certainly have had a lot on your mind. Only you and your hubby really know what should and shouldn't be done...it's a decision I'm sure you both worked out for what is best. And, if it means letting your daughter deal with it and working it out, then that means it is time to do so.

I love the fact that you have a tiny kitten to care for and add to your furry friends. That kitty needed a good mama and now she has one. (I said "she" because that's what you said you think the kitten is.)

I like that you are back. I pray nothing keeps you away again unless, of course, there are good things that are the reason.

Hugs Angie.

When tough love is all that's left, that's what we must do. I no longer bail my oldest daughter out of her financial situations. I set her on the course once, bought her a car, paid a bunch of her bills and now it's up to her to carry on. If she doesn't, then that's on her.

Hurray, you're back! I must agree with you and others--it's time to put a halt to bailing out "family". I'm in a similar situation with two (!) of my daughters. Things will work out, and if they don't..... well, so be it.

Oh, Angie...I'm so sorry to read that things have been going this way and that you're on the same road traveled too often with your daughter. I don't imagine that it's any easier to refuse the help this time, but you know what's best for you *and* for her...even if she doesn't realize it, yet. Keep cuddling that sweet little kitten and give it everything you wish you could give to your daughter....

I recently had to do the same with my son angie. not that he was getting into trouble. but lying all the time and not taking responsibility for anything. sometimes we have to do what is hardest to let them grow up.
the baby kitten sounds delightful! I love the name, so cute! you must post a pic of her!

Awww so glad to hear the news of your new little baby kitten!! I'm sorry Angie but, I think sometimes you just have to back away and let them sink or swim. You have done all you can above and beyond. No one will judge you for that hon. Love you lots and here are BIG (((((((HUGS))))))
Jenn

Some days it is hard to believe that they are 'supposed to be' grown up and living on their own, when they lean on us until we cave in. Standing firm with tough love is the best way....but it will be so hard to do. In the long run, you'll be happier for standing up for yourself. When we willingly climb on a runaway train, headed for disaster it is of our own choosing. You can choose to watch this train just slide on down the tracks. So, SOOOOOO hard to do. You have hugs and prayers from me!!

You know what, tough love is still love. She'll be better for it in the long run, even though your heart will want to do something else, don't listen to it. This is what is best for her. I love the kitten story. Give Reni a smooch from me!

So nice to see you back here! I agree that sometimes tough love is needed in situations like this. Until people really hit rock bottom with no one to bail them out, they'll never really wake up and learn to take action for themselves. I love the story about your new kitten. How appropriate that something so innocent and precious should come into your life also needing your care around the same time that your daughter asked to be bailed out for the millionth time...

Incredible...it really makes one wonder about the abuse and acceptance at a certain level for so many years. I love the symbolism of that little kitty in this story, she can not fend for her life with out your help, however your daughter can and she's chosen not to apparently. The very best of luck!