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Brain Dead City

Remember when we had our water heater replaced because the old one was leaking? Well, the plumbers who installed it are trained to set the temp to where you can’t accidentally burn yourself so for 7 ½ months, my hot baths have not been hot enough and when I rinse off, the water is already lukewarm. I want the temp raised to where it was before and Ed promises to get to it and doesn’t. So today, on the phone with him while he is languishing in rehab and going nuts with boredom, we fought about it and he said I should call the plumber and that is, to him, a big deal, because it will be $100 just for showing up.

My mother had a saying for when one is mired in an endless nightmare of sorts – “You have eaten the cow, now you can eat the tail.” Ed will see the surgeon tomorrow and the facility’s van will take him and I will ride along, leaving my car in the lot. The doctor will tell him if he is now allowed to put weight on the leg that had the surgery. Ed is doing really well but he is eating himself alive with impatience because “excellent progress” is not enough.

I have several physical issues that don’t need to be explained. Suffice to say, I am exhausted, I am in pain, and I have to run constant errands for Ed. He isn’t getting enough to eat, so can I bring him food. And can I please get there by 10 or 10:30 and the answer to that is maybe, because my mornings are hell.

Gulf Coast Village is the facility Ed chose because they have an excellent rehab unit. He works with them on behalf of his guardian clients. It offers independent living/assisted living/nursing home. It is huge with many buildings. surrounded by woods and paths, and it took me forever to find the rehab unit. When I was leaving, I noticed a quiet little exit road that leads straight to the main street and you have to know it’s there and you can drive right by it without even seeing it. But I have trained myself to find it and I am using that instead.

Some time ago, Ed suggested that if he goes first, I would do well to sign myself into Gulf Coast Village for $130,000, and you get a refund if you leave. If your money runs out, you are not evicted. They take care of you till da end. I have been there with Ed, attending functions and whatnot, and my thought was “kill me now.” Yes, it would be comfortable and secure and the grounds are nice and you may not even notice that you are living in “Brain Dead City”.
xx, Teal

posted on Feb 2, 2020 8:56 PM ()


Electric water heaters have the temperature adjustment behind a panel that screws off. The gas ones have an easy to see & adjust knob, so I'm thinking yours is electric.
comment by traveltales on Feb 3, 2020 6:02 PM ()
Everything here is electric.We don't have a gas stove either. And Ed didn't already fix this because he would have to figure out how to do it as well and he put it off.
reply by tealstar on Feb 5, 2020 5:18 PM ()
I know what it's like caring for a cantankerous, old person. Hand in there.
comment by janett on Feb 3, 2020 4:25 PM ()
High maintenance is Ed. And he tells me to go home and rest and calls me to see if I am resting and wakes me up.
reply by tealstar on Feb 5, 2020 5:19 PM ()
If it isn’t a gas water heater — with that easy dial — or if it’s some newfangled kind you might need a plumber to help. I like mine turned a bit too high.
comment by drmaus on Feb 3, 2020 3:52 PM ()
Can you get to the water heater? Raising the temp is almost self explanatory.
comment by jjoohhnn on Feb 3, 2020 9:03 AM ()
Maybe. But my experience lately is that things are more complicated than they used to be, so I don't want to go near it
reply by tealstar on Feb 5, 2020 5:15 PM ()
Maybe you've got some other things the plumber could look at while he's there. One time we had to call a plumber to replace a sink drain, and Mr. I-Can-Do-It-Myself was so thrilled he had the guy do a couple of other things while he was here. It was heart-warming.
comment by traveltales on Feb 3, 2020 7:48 AM ()
Being old is the pits because you hurt and can't do what you want to. Also one is denied the comfort of just about everything. Ed is very lucky to have you at his beck and call. Chin up and stiff upper lip and all that sort of thing.
comment by elderjane on Feb 3, 2020 6:01 AM ()
my lip is so stiff already.
reply by tealstar on Feb 8, 2020 8:31 PM ()
Surrounding you in caring supportive affection, dear T.
comment by marta on Feb 3, 2020 3:26 AM ()

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