For years, I have wrestled with where I wanted to be laid to rest. We have four grave spaces in the cemetery where my brother and my dad are at rest. My dad is in the first, the second is reserved for my mother, Larry is in the third, and Jim will be placed in the final one when he passes.

That leaves me with no where to go. I could be buried beside my ex-husband; but I have never really wanted to be. For one thing, he is in a military cemetery; for another, we were divorced for 20 years before he died. I feel no particular affection toward him and don't really want to spend eternity lying beside him, given the fact that I found it impossible to spend my waking life with him.

The person who meant the very most to me was my dad. The other day, it suddenly came to me. The answer is so simple. I have decided I wish to be cremated and my ashes placed with my dad. Many people do this. I can have a marker at the foot of the grave or the kids can have a new marker made with both our names on it. Then, I can be with my dad and the rest of my family.

Don't know why this never occurred to me before. Finally, instead of spending $10,000 plus dollars, my kids can spend $795 and have the rest of my insurance money as a treat for something they need or want.