Life has pretty much shut down here because we had 4 and a half inches of snow on Wed. Schools were cancelled and a lot of offices shut down. My friends surgery was also cancelled...it was an eye lift so not urgent. Jose actually walked out into it looking for just the right spot to pee and it came up to his back Needless to say, the right spot appeared very soon. Ted is so depressed over his brother's worsening condition that he just can't talk about it. It is his favorite of the five brothers and the one we were both closest to. My sister in law is an RN and she is caring for him at home. They have hospice and their two daughters go every weekend to stay and help out. He has a laundry list of ailments, cancer, Parkinsons, dementia with wild hallucinations and diabetes. It was also the brother and SIL that I am most close to. I can comfort myself with the fact that while he was still lucid, I told him that I never had a brother but he had come to fill that role and that we both loved him and were there for him. He knew us monday but slept most of the time we were there. We took lunch and books and wine, chocolate and make up for Nova. She has to order groceries and only gets out when the girls are there on weekends. It has become easier now that he can no longer walk and try to find home. It was so pitiful when he kept begging people to take him home. He didn't recognize that he was at home in the house he had built himself. The stress and constant fretting have made them both lose a lot of weight and they no longer eat hardly any thing. Hospice has his medications balanced and now the hallucinations are much better. My SIL is heroic. I don't think I could do it but she is determined to keep him at home until the end. Their daughters are the bright spot on weekends that keep her going. They stay and let her get out a little, just going to Walmart is a treat for her.