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Will I Ever Learn?

I have a garage sale scheduled with four other women. I have never had a successful one because I have no clue about what people will buy. I fully expect to donate the left overs to the Salvation Army. I am currently very distressed over my favorite brother in law's health. He has lymphoma and cancers are continually popping up on top of his head. He hallucinates constantly and is out of touch with reality. We don't know if it is the cancer or the radiation and chemo. I am so sorry for my sister in law. She has been like a sister to me and her burden is indescribable. They built a wonderful home in the country and expected to have many years to enjoy it. Now it has become a liability. I am taking it easy today. I worked extremely hard yesterday and the day before. I could always do some yard work. The roses were glorious because of the rain but we had a hard downpour that spoiled them and now there is a lot of dead heading to do. Our insurance company is demanding that we have a wellness exam so Monday is given over to appointments for both of us and then one for Jose's heartworm shot. My new primary care physician took me out to the front and told everyone that I was the healthiest 90 year old in her practice. I am grateful because without your health nothing is very important. I see that everyday. Keep your fingers crossed for me on the garage sale issue.

posted on May 9, 2019 5:26 AM ()


Good luck with the garage sale. Years ago, my father-in-law's main hobby was going to garage sales and bringing home the treasures to repair or otherwise enhance in his workshop. After they moved to a townhome neighborhood, he took to dumpster diving, brought home a lot of discarded vacuum cleaners and oscillating fans. The vacuums were often like new, but had pet hair clogged in somewhere, and the fans usually needed lubricating. He gave the repaired items to family members, and we were the beneficiaries.
comment by traveltales on May 11, 2019 6:34 PM ()
Gary's dad sounds like a man after my own heart. I am a pack rat too and
need to get rid of a lot of stuff. I even found a tiny portable tv in my utility pantry.
reply by elderjane on May 12, 2019 3:45 AM ()
Yehaw! A yard sale! I'll call you for the details.
So sorry about your brother-in-law. I know your sister-in-law must treasure your love and support at this time.
comment by jerms on May 10, 2019 6:20 AM ()
Jeremy, the yard sale is on Bella Vista close to the reno stoplight. It is on the l7th and l8th and will be a four family purge. Hope to see you and Jennifer shopping with us. Tell your neighbors.
reply by elderjane on May 11, 2019 5:52 AM ()
It is so hard to see family suffering, I hope your BIL is not in a lot of pain. And I hope you just enjoy the garage sale. You’re letting some stuff go, so yay! It’ll be gone and someone else will like it. I suspect your garage sale items are way nicer than the average.
comment by drmaus on May 9, 2019 3:25 PM ()
I really am of the opinion that it is better to donate and much less trouble but my friends insisted we try. I have two favorite sources to donate to and the are Vietnam vets and Salvation Army. I have some shelving and a table top that might interest a creative person.
reply by elderjane on May 10, 2019 2:23 AM ()
Dear Jeri, you are my role model. I can't garden anymore, not that I ever did, but I did used to trim the bushes. So sorry about your b.i.l. Nothing is worse than watching a loved one suffer.
comment by tealstar on May 9, 2019 12:15 PM ()
I never had a brother and David has been that close to me, as is his wife. He is not David any more and she told me that he was her best friend for fifty years and now he is almost the same as gone. Sometimes our dreams of a happy retirement die and it is sad.
reply by elderjane on May 10, 2019 2:29 AM ()
People will buy anything at a yardsale if the price is right. Especially frugal people like me who have the imagination to repurpose almost anything.

You and Martin are still my inspiration for living long. I decided the other day that I'll be gardening for at least another 10 years. This is in contrast to my old attitude--will I be able to do this next year.
comment by jjoohhnn on May 9, 2019 12:06 PM ()
I predict the gardening itch will strike each and every spring. I will
sell everything very cheap and I have some stuff that creative people
can repurpose. Martin and I are lucky to be healthy. Both of us are pretty social and insist on having as much pleasure in life as possible.
I think that is the key to a relatively happy old age.
reply by elderjane on May 10, 2019 2:34 AM ()
Wait, insurance can demand you see a doctor??? What the hell is that about???
I hope your garage sale goes well! I haven't ever had one but I probably should to get rid of a lot of crap.
I am so happy you are healthy and I am sorry your fave brother in law is sick, and of course very sorry for your sis in law as well. That is a rough situation.
comment by kristilyn3 on May 9, 2019 5:58 AM ()
Yes, my insurance company is intrusive in many ways but they are also a good source of advice. They even sent a doctor to the house once, I guess to see if we were ok. They helped me find a wonderful new primary doctor who is delightful. She is young and pretty and has a great personality. She is also very thorough. So all in all, it is good. I am so concerned for my sister in law. I had a husband who could do everything and so could David. Now we are on our own and if I
can't do it, I have to hire someone to help or rely on friends. Nova is twenty years younger but it is still very hard.
reply by elderjane on May 10, 2019 2:44 AM ()

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