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The Last Few Days

They have been a nightmare since Thanksgiving. Bobby took
a turn for the worse on Thanksgiving day and has been so
sick and weak.

I cannot even put into words how painful his condition is
for him and for all his family. I am there on the days
that Ellie works. He fell on my watch and got a black
eye but we can not get him to stay in bed. His sister
and I are in constant contact and Ellie has stepped up
to the plate. He is so heavily medicated that his speech
is slurred but says most of the pain is blocked.

On top of everything else, Ellie was told by h er mechanic
that she has to have new tires and really can't find the
time to have it done. It never rains but it pours!

posted on Dec 9, 2015 10:19 AM ()

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From my experience working for a local hospice, you can "fire" the social worker. There are sometimes more than one on the team and all you have to do is ask for the other one. You also have the option to change hospice companies.

Much love. There are no words.
comment by jerms on Dec 10, 2015 8:04 PM ()
Thank you. I think the nurse is good and the chaplain is ok. We really
don't think the social worker is competant. She doesn't address the
issues like long term grief support, instead she talks about herself
incessently.
reply by elderjane on Dec 11, 2015 4:18 PM ()
This is the most painful situation ever ... your solace must be that you are there for him and doing everything you can. I am sure he appreciates everything you do.
comment by tealstar on Dec 10, 2015 10:16 AM ()
I have spent every day with him and do all that he will allow. He is so
independent. Then, these things like tires having to be replaced and
Adrienne coming down with strep keep happening!
reply by elderjane on Dec 11, 2015 4:20 PM ()
Nothing I can say to you that you haven't already said to others.And you know that somehow you will be Ok.
comment by jjoohhnn on Dec 9, 2015 5:00 PM ()
I feel that I am living in some kind of evil trance. It is so hard
and I really appreciate your support.
reply by elderjane on Dec 10, 2015 3:22 AM ()
That happens when pain is reduced, people suddenly feel like moving. I'm glad he's not feeling all the pain, but how worrying. And please don't try any lifting you cannot do. I remember this kind of situation from my sister's husband's illness. I hope you have some young strong man to call sometimes for moving him.
comment by drmaus on Dec 9, 2015 12:12 PM ()
I am not lifting or doing anything strenuous. It is a matter of getting
food down him and being with him. I am grateful for the time we have
together.
reply by elderjane on Dec 10, 2015 3:25 AM ()
I was afraid that's what this post was going to be about. you are in my thoughts and prayers, I will be praying for a miracle for all of you
comment by kristilyn3 on Dec 9, 2015 10:22 AM ()
We are holding on. I wish we had a better hospice, the social worker
is impossible but the nurse is good. I think we are long past a miracle.
reply by elderjane on Dec 10, 2015 3:28 AM ()

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