Cindy

Profile

Username:: cindy
Name:: Cindy
Location:: Jackson, MS
Birthday:: 01/01
Status:: Not Interested

Stats

Post Reads:: 89,329
Posts:: 178
Photos:: 2
Last Online:: > 30 days ago

View All 178 »

My Friends

19 hours ago

2 days ago

16 days ago

> 30 days ago

> 30 days ago

> 30 days ago

> 30 days ago

> 30 days ago

Feeds: RSS | XML

Southern Sands

Life & Events > Relationships > They Say ...

They Say ...

You know what they say ( whoever THEY are)

I have a blogster friend that is going through a divorce. Not a good time in this person's life to "start anew." I'm trying to think of some comfortable, supportive words and I can't.

The ONLY thing that is comes to mind is " You know what they say, you have to FEEL it." It reminds me of a time when I was going through this same thing, but I was much younger and was determine to bounce back and then some....

I still think that "feeling it" is indeed what you have to do to get past it. Any thoughts or suggestions?

posted on Feb 20, 2008 5:58 PM ()

Comments:

I always figured there was so little difference b/t women that I might as well keep the first one. Our 40th Anniv is this year.

comment by looserobes on Feb 22, 2008 3:45 PM ()

I am sorry for your friend cindy. but at least she has you to lean on, i think that will get her through this. having good friends who support and encourage her. (I assumed it was a her, could be a him)

comment by elkhound on Feb 22, 2008 7:11 AM ()

only time will ease the hurt....nothing anyone can say or do will help a whole lot. I've been through heartbreak and that's the only thing that helps. but I'm sure yer friend is glad that you're there for her/him. yer a good pal, Cin.

reguards
yer a broken heart is the worst pain there is pal
bugg

comment by honeybugg on Feb 21, 2008 3:11 PM ()

sorry,about the divorced there.When I got divorced it was heaven
to me and the pain is gone.After 35 years yippeeeeeeee
I am free.

comment by fredo on Feb 21, 2008 9:57 AM ()

I have magic words. Lack of empathy

comment by jtruant on Feb 21, 2008 8:43 AM ()

I don't know if there is any real advice to kill the pain, just the knowing that life goes on.
By the way--when you young-who was President ? Filmore?

comment by grumpy on Feb 21, 2008 8:22 AM ()

People seem so eager to pretend that paper walls and smoke and dust will protect them. When the answer is as simple as starting over again. Everyday, over and over again.

comment by against on Feb 21, 2008 7:26 AM ()

Thankfully I have never been there so I am in no position to comment. But I guess it is a bit like the grieving process of a death where until you confront things then they never really heal. You are a good friend and I am sure you will be able to advise in the way you always do to help your friend through their difficult time.

comment by jensgems on Feb 21, 2008 6:58 AM ()

I think just offering her love and willingness to listen is the best thing you can do. I don't think there are any particular words that you have to come up with. If this is a friend, you offer her love and understanding. I think that's all you need -- just a shoulder and a little love and support. Cindy, you're the one for that.

comment by teacherwoman on Feb 21, 2008 6:23 AM ()

Sometimes it's the most difficult to let yourself really feel the pain of the situation and to face the reality of what's happening.

I'm very sorry for what you're friend is going through.

comment by dkelly on Feb 21, 2008 5:44 AM ()

I believe that you are exactly on the mark on this! In order to heal from any type of pain, even that from divorce, you must feel the emotions that are there. I believe when that happens, there will be growth. I don't think that a person can heal if they stifle what they feel. Just my thoughts on this.

comment by hopefields on Feb 20, 2008 10:07 PM ()

wish I had some magic words...

comment by kristilyn3 on Feb 20, 2008 6:37 PM ()

I have come to expect the unexpected. In most cases, I accept it, even welcome it. It may not seem like a good time to start anew, but if that's what has to be, it should be approached with an open mind, at least, willingness at best. Not easy for someone not used to living this way, but doable.

comment by jjoohhnn on Feb 20, 2008 6:36 PM ()

Great advice, Cindy! The eclipse was great but I got cold and kept running back in the house. I thought about sacrificing something to appease the space gods but I couldn't find a lamb or a hecater, so I sacrificed a glass of scotch.

comment by jondude on Feb 20, 2008 6:11 PM ()

Comment on this article

178 articles found [ Previous Article ] [ Next Article ] [ First ] [ Last ]

Cindy

Profile

Stats

Recent Posts

My Friends

Subscribe

Southern Sands

They Say ...