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Entertainment Nonsense, Friends and Christmas

If I were getting married again, I’d first ask for a list of TV programs that are your favorites. Other things being equal, the choices might or might not be a factor. Ed, for instance, loves anything with violence in it, so war movies are at the top of his list. A close second is any old Western movie, even the ones with Vera Hruba Ralston in them, and then there are the contestant programs. The one he watches most lately is a bunch of people making knives. The guru of the program says things like “Your blade won’t cut. You have to leave the forge!” This is akin to telling him his life is over. Lots of fake drama, lots of humble, fearful supplicants who are agonizing over whether they will or will not meet this very high standard of knife making. Lots of teeth grinding as each tries to be the one with the blade that wins. The contestants get to talk about how they will craft their blade. The winner is suitably humble, humble. The host is godawful. If I ever met him, I’d be sure to kick him where it is a given that he would never, ever get to have any more children.

Ed also likes the worm movies, where the worms come out of the ground and devour anyone in the vicinity and they are blind, but can hear you if you move around or talk. He also loves Jaws and its sequel and cheers for the shark to get the teen-agers. Another favorite of his is Jurassic Park and its sequel. I think these movies are big on manufactured drama. I like movies with great dialogue and I particularly like fantasies.

Of course there are also programs we both like – like the house remodeling ones and we watch MSNBC a lot, although my tolerance for letting this go on all day doesn’t get Ed’s vote. And at night, at one minute to 9 p.m., I excuse myself to go into the family room and watch Rachel Maddow and after her, Lawrence O’Donnell. These people keep me sane and hopeful. Meanwhile, Ed stays in the bedroom and streams a western or something. When I heard Florida had a channel devoted to Westerns and a channel devoted to religious programs, I said, “kill me now.”We both like the transporter movies with Jason Statham, and spy movies, and occasionally, Ed will tolerate a romantic comedy.

I wanted Sol to see Bell, Book and Candle, and our dvd copy was lost somewhere so I bought another one on Amazon and finally was able to run it for her. It was a big success. Sol, being Lithuanian born, has few social references that resonate, so I am her go to person for explaining things. The most challenging is informing her why she should care about what is happening politically.

And parenthetically, we are invited to Jean and Danny’s for Christmas. And we are bringing Sol, and today Jean said we could bring Rosa, Ed’s newly acquired 94 year old ward who spent Thanksgiving with us. Jean and Danny are super wonderful, in case I haven’t mentioned it. They have three daughters, the two oldest are scheduled to leave the nest in the coming year. One of them is a commander in the ROTC and is going to pursue a military career. The middle one is going to go to the University of Miami and the youngest is brilliant and on her way to total meltdown or super genius status, it isn’t yet clear. When she is at my house, she re-arranges the furniture, and asks questions about Jay’s telegraph key, direction finder (he bought for the boat we didn't get), and two sextants that now qualify as antiques.

My pal, Toni, came but was vociferous in telling me I didn’t have to feed anyone because they were coming for the company and the view. Of course, I ignored this wisdom and when Toni got here, she ate up a storm.

Jean has invited me to live with her and family if I am ever alone, and that is really kind and caring of her. She considers me a surrogate mom and that is nice because I didn’t have children and having someone in that space is lovely, particularly since I didn’t have to endure all the effort of child rearing. Sol also relates to me as a daughter. Her mom is in Lithuania and struggling with health issues. They skype every day. She is very happy that Sol has us in her corner. When Sol is skyping from my house, I wave at her mom but can’t talk with her because she has no English.

xx, Teal

posted on Dec 23, 2018 9:52 AM ()


We have watched a bunch of romantic comedies.

My wife has told me that she liked "Thornbirds", but I haven't seen it and we haven't watched it together.
comment by stiva on Jan 5, 2019 6:24 AM ()
There was a news item about a year ago (?) about the changing nature of marriage. Being able to discuss TV shows that you both like was a factor that people consider going into marriage due to the communication and common interest issues.
comment by stiva on Dec 28, 2018 8:52 AM ()
I find that most men have a different wish list re. entertainment and most of it revolves around manly things like war. Romantic comedies seem to be at the bottom of their list. I watched "Thornbirds" a dramatic mini TV series about a romance between a priest and a young girl == Richard Chamberlain, Rachel Ward, Barbara Stanwyck. Every time I put it on, Jay, my late first husband would roll his eyes and disappear.
reply by tealstar on Dec 28, 2018 12:15 PM ()
I was reading "From Here to Eternity" in the early 50s. My office manager at the Chicago Convention Bureau, Mabel, noticed and "Said, 'Hmmph, people don't talk like that." The book was pretty graphic. I said, in my experience (semi Chicago slum), they do. I was a bit of an outlier in this rarified world of suburban princesses. They didn't know what to make of me but I was the best worker they had.
comment by tealstar on Dec 27, 2018 11:41 AM ()
Sometimes I wonder if the f-word was as prevalent back in those days as "Deadwood" would have us believe, but I do enjoy watching it. It's the same thrill as I get when cars in the movies plow into a bunch of trash cans or wipe out a lawn jockey.
comment by traveltales on Dec 26, 2018 7:57 PM ()
I messed up. See my response above.
reply by tealstar on Dec 27, 2018 12:01 PM ()
It's an HBO show about 10 years old (so I'm not sure if it's still accessible there) , and frequently crude, brutal and so gross I had to shut my eyes once in a while. Still, I'm a diehard fan of it. It's loosely based on real people, and they take a lot of fictional liberties. Calamity Jane's character was too much for me; they made her into a complete alcoholic weirdo. Other characters are great; they made George Hearst utterly frightening. But the main character is what I watched it for, also for the dialogue which is kind of Shakespearean.
comment by drmaus on Dec 26, 2018 3:03 PM ()
I love that you have so many meaningful connections, one of life's invaluable treasures!
comment by jerms on Dec 24, 2018 6:09 PM ()
I think I've seen the promo for that knife program, but haven't watched it; good to know I'm not missing much. I just spent a bunch of time trying to adjust the TV so it doesn't cut off some of the picture. Found out there are settings for the TV and different settings for the cable channel. It was the latter that I needed to look at.
comment by traveltales on Dec 24, 2018 3:19 PM ()
Don't ever watch the knife program. these men are committed to the past.
they are also very ugly and stupid and it is one of Ted's favorites. He also loves one about a supposedly lost island where they are digging for treasure and have spent more already than if they hit a pot of gold.
reply by elderjane on Dec 24, 2018 11:36 PM ()
Ed and Ted share the same taste in tv entertainment. I would also add to the next husband interview a series of health and mobility questions.
comment by elderjane on Dec 24, 2018 5:24 AM ()
Sounds like Ed, Ted and I could sit together for hours and not disagree about what to watch! Lol
reply by jerms on Dec 24, 2018 6:09 PM ()
Well, when we marry them, they're functioning. What to look for is a subliminal wish to go slowly. Ed has totally abandoned his heart healthy diet and eats meat for breakfast and lunch and asks for it at dinner. And he goes out to the car and takes "a drag" of a cigarette that he then says he throws away. Well, I had a friend who did that and he's gone now and it was the ciggies that did it. Jay didn't smoke, and he was not responsible for his death and there is no justice.
reply by tealstar on Dec 24, 2018 6:09 AM ()
You have a lot of extended family not actually related to you, that is really nice. Your description of the “worm movies” cracks me up. Has Ed ever seen the show Deadwood? I wonder what he’d think of it.
comment by drmaus on Dec 23, 2018 8:48 PM ()
Deadwood doesn't much sound like Ed's thing. As you describe it, it has a little bit of everything.
reply by tealstar on Dec 27, 2018 9:36 PM ()
Deadwood is not a show we know about. Should we look for it?
reply by tealstar on Dec 24, 2018 8:58 PM ()

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