My most precious only grandchild, my grand-daughter-and she is grand--"Cara" is special in every way. Smart, beautiful, great personality, couldn't ask for a more excellent grand daughter. Cara says she has met the "love of her life" a guy she just recently met.

My heart sank. She met this guy on the rebound from a disastrous prior relationship with a weirdo. I say "Back up, take it easy, get to really know this guy before comitting your heart and soul again." But who ever listened to me?
Cara's current love has a college degree, has been out of school for months, but is making a lackadaisical search for a job. I fear he is the type who will always want to start a new job at the top, thinking he's too smart to work his way up.
He likes fine wines and good restaurants, all the finer aspects of life--which includes my eye candy grand-baby. How is he funding his pursuits of good taste? Credit cards? His parents?
Meanwhile, Cara is working and attending college.

I know a smart pretty girl here in town who married a slacker like Cara's boyfriend. She has to work three jobs to support the family. Why would a woman put up with that? She's being used. But are some women so desperate to have a man--if you can call a male like that a man--around, that she will put up with anything?

I wish Cara would "find herself" first. Be on her own and know herself before diving into this relationship. She is young, she doesn't know there can be two or three "Loves of her life" in her future. But who listens to me?

susil