I had an email from my sister this morning (Thurs). In it she asked why I didn't call her back when she left a message on Tues. In that message she had asked about going dinner on Tues, because she was going to be relatively close to our house.

About a year ago, we exchanged some pointed emails. In the emails, we discussed things like how her husband doesn't like us, we have different options about our parents, she (or they?) never wants to see my wife again, I have abandoned her since she has been ill, and things like that. She also forwarded these emails to our parents. That last little thing particularly ticked me off.

We live in California, but she was about 3.5h away. Prior to those emails we hadn't seen each other very often, but did when we originally moved out here. We are different people and have different lives, except that we came from the same house.

Since then she has developed another illness that is worse than the other one. She has started contacting me again. I see that as looking for support. I write responses to her emails, but don't say much, if at all, about what's happening on our end. They have also moved closed to us because of her husband's job.

I'm supposed to rush down and see her?

In today's email she also had added that our aunt is going to come out and help her and they would like to see "you". Does "you" mean me or us? Kitty would probably like to visit with the aunt, but there's so much baggage involved. Does "you" include the wife that she doesn't want to see again? Her phone message had "you" in it as well. That's what caused my aggravation about calling her back in the first place.

I replied to her email that I didn't get her phone message until the next day, my cell phone doesn't get signal at work, and forgot to call her in the evening. The part about the message was a lie, because I heard the message in the evening after work. I don't like lying. My response was short and not so sweet.

I didn't address the visiting part and, of course, I did NOT go into my health issue.