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Mothers 20081021

I have been laying awake at night thinking about what I would write to my mother in light of all this being brought up again. I don't know if she will actually get a letter but know that my father will get any email that I send. If I call, then he might answer. I don't want to talk with him, don't see a way to have any conversation with him, and may not be able to get through to my mother.

I wrote a draft of that this morning.

I talked with my mother in law last night for about 15 minutes. She had called with a question for me and we went through that and other stuff. It was nice to have a normal conversation.

Dolly had something she wanted to go to and my wrist is still strained from Kempo class on Sat, so I didn't go to Kempo class.

posted on Oct 21, 2008 9:25 AM ()

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I had to catch up on the last few posts you wrote, so I kind of had an idea of what is going on. Family that you are born into is a curious thing, I much prefer family that you make yourself. Still the former is hard to avoid forever. Good luck
comment by ducky on Oct 22, 2008 6:47 AM ()
good luck. I hope there is some healing soon so that you can again sleep at night.
comment by firststarisee on Oct 21, 2008 2:05 PM ()
Did you find the therapy helpful?
comment by janetk on Oct 21, 2008 12:07 PM ()
I also should have added that Judy is in therapy to help her deal with what our mother did. Writing the letter wasn't enough.
comment by janetk on Oct 21, 2008 11:55 AM ()
That's the very thing my sister did just a few months ago. She has no regrets and feels good about what she said and her level of honesty. It was important for her to let our mother know how Mom's words and actions had impacted her throughout Judy's life but she knew she couldn't actually speak the words to Mom or Dad. Sometimes writing and being able to correct ourselves and look it over, etc. is the best way to go.
comment by janetk on Oct 21, 2008 11:53 AM ()
Verbalizing does help to put things in perspective and to let go.
comment by angiedw on Oct 21, 2008 10:42 AM ()
writing is very cathartic, even if the letter is never sent.
comment by elkhound on Oct 21, 2008 10:34 AM ()
Writing out a letter beforehand to sort out your thoughts always helps. Actually, I wrote a lengthy blog draft the other day about my parents, but decided to keep it for myself... sometimes it just helps to get your thoughts out in front of you. Good luck.
comment by mellowdee on Oct 21, 2008 9:51 AM ()
It definitely sounds like a difficult family situation. I hope it sorts out well.
AJ
comment by lunarhunk on Oct 21, 2008 9:32 AM ()
comment by kristilyn3 on Oct 21, 2008 9:26 AM ()

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