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Which of Us Would Have Thought?

Holly, Bevan, Bailey, and I have just returned from our friend, Allen's, services. Â As the minister said, "Which of us Â thought we would be here today for this reason?"
I don't know how Alex did it, but she stayed at the door greeting every single guest after the service. Â Her mother did take the two little girls outside; but Jonathan also stayed. Â He and Bailey had a long hug for old times' sake. Â Bless his heart; he's only thirteen, but he was trying so hard to be a man for his mom, even though he kept breaking down. It moved me to tears.Â
I am so glad to be home at last. Â I am not accustomed to being that well-dressed for that long, especially in this heat. Â I just could not wait to get home and back in my shorts. Â Retirement has thoroughly spoiled me. Wearing a suit, hose and heels is something I don't even do for church anymore.Â
And to think I did it every day for many years. Â Thank goodness those days are now behind me.
I feel drained both physically and emotionally, so pardon this post being so short. Â I just need to unwind for a while now.

posted on May 26, 2011 12:19 PM ()

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I know exactly how you felt after the funeral. I get a headache just thinking about the emotional stress. Better days ahead.

comment by solitaire on May 27, 2011 5:30 AM ()

The emotional stress really doesn't hit until it's finally over; then, you just feel so drained.

reply by redimpala on May 27, 2011 7:22 AM ()

How sad to lose a father and husband in his prime. I know you'll be there for your friend.

I don't mind dressing up, heels too. I like to revisit the elegance of my New York days. And, of course, there aren't many occasions where one dresses down here in the land of the tattooed wonders. We have the car. I don't have to walk far. And once, at home when we were giving a party, I wore sheer black pants and f.m. shoes (3 1/2 inch heels) all night and yes, they pinched, but boy, were they sensayshonal (and I looked really tall).

comment by tealstar on May 27, 2011 3:46 AM ()

Yes, I feel such empathy for all of them, but especially the children. I don't mind dressing up either, but I was on my feet for especially a long while today, and I did get tired. It was a beautiful day but by afternoon it was getting really hot.

reply by redimpala on May 27, 2011 4:13 AM ()

Hugs to you, Joan.

comment by troutbend on May 26, 2011 9:08 PM ()

Thank you, Laura. It was a beautiful service full of laughter through our tears. Four of Allen's friends since his highschool and college days spoke, telling some truly funny stories about Allen; but even they choked up during their speeches, having to stop to regain their composure. And these were men in their 30's and 40's.

It was one of those services that no one got all the way through without shedding a tear.

reply by redimpala on May 27, 2011 3:57 AM ()

I've been thinking of you all today, sending thoughts of love and support.

comment by marta on May 26, 2011 8:51 PM ()

Ah, thank you Marty. It was an emotional day. Alex was so strong; but she had her children with her. I don't know if I could have held up as well as she did. All through the service, Jonathan sat with his arm around his mom. I think he truly feels he's the man of the house now, and he has to take care of her. I think he touched me with his love and concern as much as anything.

reply by redimpala on May 27, 2011 3:59 AM ()

How sad. (The funeral) I hate it when I have to wear a bra let alone pantyhose- and never heels! Does that mean I am a sloth?

comment by dragonflyby on May 26, 2011 5:07 PM ()

No bra, what a luxury. I wear mine all the time including when I sleep so the equipment does not go south. It works. (Lifting weights helps.)

reply by tealstar on May 27, 2011 3:40 AM ()

If it does, then we both are!! The first thing that comes off when I walk in the door is my bra, even when I'm wearing shorts. And flip flops are my shoe of choice most of the time when I have to step outside. I felt the need to be "presentable" today because I knew it would be a large service, which it was.

Like all funerals, this one had it poignant moments but none more so than those three small children saying good-bye to their dad.

reply by redimpala on May 26, 2011 6:12 PM ()

So true about retirement spoiling you especially as far as getting 'dressed' goes--I live with 300 other old folks and you wouldn't believe some of the outfits they wear everyday. As much as I love theatre going I hate the trousers, shirt, jacket, socks and SHOES!!!

comment by greatmartin on May 26, 2011 2:06 PM ()

Yes, once we get used to the comfort of bare feet or flip-flops, putting on shoes is really a wake-up! I don't even like wearing tennis shoes anymore.

reply by redimpala on May 26, 2011 6:14 PM ()

I just returned from a funeral, but I wore a pant suit and sandals and was comfortable.

comment by elderjane on May 26, 2011 2:03 PM ()

Smart move! That's usually what I wear to church these days. But I thought this called for a little more today. Next time, I may rethink that. Holly wore pants, but she did wear high heels.

reply by redimpala on May 26, 2011 6:16 PM ()

Did you say short.A condensed version of being too long.(kidding)

comment by fredo on May 26, 2011 1:14 PM ()

For me, who has a tendency to ramble, this is SHORT!

reply by redimpala on May 26, 2011 6:17 PM ()

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