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Life & Events > Relationships > Alone But Not Lonely--again/still
 

Alone But Not Lonely--again/still



 

Sorry--have to run!!!
 
It took me 50 years, 4 exes, innumerable mini-affairs to realize that I prefer, enjoy, need to live alone.

I
make/am a great friend, adviser, listener but as a life partner a dud.
It could be I am too selfish, unwilling to compromise when it comes to
ME, unable to sustain a physical relationship with one person or a
million other reasons. And it's NOT that I haven't found the right
person--I did in 1981 but it couldn't/didn't last.

Why do I like living alone and don't feel lonely? Let me tackle the latter first.

I
have 5 different, very close friends. If I want to go out to a movie or
play, attend an event, spend time at the beach, share a joyful time,
cry on someones shoulder or just talk they are available. If I want to
have a physical encounter I have a group of people to call upon.


Now
as to not being/feeling lonely: I have many interests such as reading,
writing, Mother Nature, theatre, movies, blogging, now being editor of
the Gateway Gazette, that take up a lot of my time and there are only 2
things I
don't/won't do alone--have sex and eat out in a fine restaurant.

Advantages of living alone:
1) I can come home and not have to worry about how the person I live with is feeling, what kind of mood they are in.
2) If I don't want the TV on it stays off.
3) I can watch what programs I want nor do I have to buy another TV to solve 'arguments'.
4) I have the whole bed to myself.
5) I do what I want when I want
6) I can eat, read or do anything else I want in bed without having to worry about annoying/disturbing someone.
7) I can eat what I want when I want.
8) I can get up or go to sleep when I want.
9)
I can smoke, fart, pick my nose, scratch my butt (Oh, I know YOU don't
do any of these things) use my fingers to eat (Oops! Maybe I should have
listed this separately after the other things mentioned :o)) without
any comments or put downs or silly laughs
10) I don't have to hide anything, including what I watch or put on the Internet.
11) Not having a person talk when I am watching and/or doing something when I prefer quiet.
12) I like to vacation, take trips alone, and stop/see where/what I want for as long as I want.
13) I can be sloppy or neat, clean after myself or not without 'nagging'.
14) I can be responsible for myself only and not for someone else.
15) I can have the a/c on or off--depending how I feel.
16) I can say and/or think "I" as much as I want.
17) I won't/don't do anything I don't want to do.
18) I can eat the whole cake, box of chocolates or cookies, bag of potato chips, etc. myself. (I told you I was selfish!)
19) If I run out of something it's my fault.
20) I don't have to lie--not even a 'white' lie.


And the list can go on.

The only advantage I can see to having a live in partner is that when you get old and/or sick someone can take care of you.
Besides all I have seen or read about partners are the problems they had or are having.
Plus I don't have to go through the heartache of a breakup :o)
The longer a person lives allone the more they will protect their space from being invaded!
(For those who may find this blog familiar it is a repeat of one of the first blogs I wrote when I started blogging in 2004/05 and repeated in 2006. It seems every once in awhile people have to be
reminded that living alone does not mean being lonely and that it can be
a choice unlike other things. LOL)

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"Nobody makes a greater mistake

than he who does nothing

because he could do so little."

EdmundBurke, 1729-1797  British Politician


posted on June 9, 2011 6:00 PM ()

Comments:

Perfect. Your reasons for living alone could have been written by myself. I just don't have the social outlets you have which balances out the "alone" time. You've almost convinced me to leave things well enough as is.
comment by solitaire on June 11, 2011 5:22 AM ()
Well, what a surprise! All this time I assumed you had a partner! Don't know why- just did.
comment by dragonflyby on June 10, 2011 6:25 PM ()
A lot of people think Allen and I are partners because I mention him so much but we're just best friends
reply by greatmartin on June 10, 2011 8:01 PM ()
I know what you mean. I really enjoy the months of the year when I'm living alone, as long as all the plumbing and cars work. This year I'll have two vehicles here, so that takes some of the edge off.
comment by troutbend on June 9, 2011 7:19 PM ()

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