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Parenting & Family > Motherhood > Emotions in a Blender
 

Emotions in a Blender


This afternoon at about 3, G's ex wife called and it was bad new of course. Not just for G and I, but mostly for his son. She backed out on coming to his (1st ever) dance recital. He cried and cried and then said to his dad that at least he has 1 parent and a step mom who loved him. She also backed out on taking him for the night.

We were still pretty happy to be going to the show and the show was awesome. Andy is just a natural and Marissa gets more graceful and remembers to smile more ever performance. It also made my night that I saw several of my students there who were happy to see me, I even spoke to some of their parents. I was also rather surprised but happy that my cousin's wife waved at me and smile. This is the first time she's spoken or even looked at me in almost a year. I was relieved actually. I've been hoping to put the incident behind us.

But then when the recital ended, things changed so rapidly and when I left I was crying harder than I've cried in a while. We went down to the basement to meet up with the kids and saw Andy right away. On the other side of the hall from where we were, my ex was there chatting with my cousin (who hasn't spoken). I assumed things were going to be okay with him to, but I guess I just made an ass of myself. I smiled and said hi only to get a half smirk, half dirty look. The two of them (A and my cousin) all buddy-buddy, looking all gossipy and completely ignoring me. Kev came to hug and kiss me and I asked him if he'd seen sis. G went to the car because Andy wasn't feeling well plus he was trying to make Al feel better. Then when Riss finally came out and I had to leave her there...with him...with them (A and my cousin who snubbed me)...I felt so awful. I felt like such a outcast.

I know I'm the better person, they don't matter...bla bla bla...but it still hurts.

posted on Dec 6, 2008 7:29 PM ()

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These are hard awkward moments that will now be a part of your life. Next time, try to imagine how you'll handle the event before hand so that you won't be anxious. It used to be difficult for me and my ex-husband (and our spouses) to be at the kids events together, but now that we simply don't speak or make eye contact with each other (not because that would be my first choice) people would never even know that he and I were once married...
comment by shesaidwhat on Dec 16, 2008 2:32 PM ()
Of course it hurts. You know you're a better person, but it hurts to see people act like that and it hurts to have people do things that can deliberately hurt others, especially right in front of their noses. That's what happened here and that's why it hurts. They're the ones that are the saddest though, because they're the ones acting the way they are. Hugs for you and keep looking at and feeding off of the things that are good and don't hurt...that's where the real love is.
comment by donnamarie on Dec 7, 2008 2:44 PM ()
I can definitely see why you are hurting. I wish I could just give you a great big hug!
AJ
comment by lunarhunk on Dec 7, 2008 7:50 AM ()
Laurie
comment by dogsalot on Dec 6, 2008 10:19 PM ()

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