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Real Friends?

So I guess you find out who your real friends are. For instance, because I had someone on my friends list here, another friend was outraged. I did not answer her email about it. I didn't answer because 1. I thought we were good enough friends that she would know who I am and what is inside my heart and 2. I didn't want to fight over something stupid. Well now I see I am being targeted in different blogs. Not only by her. But its ok. They can think what they want about me. I am disappointed that she carried it this far. I am disappointed that just by having someone on a friends list on a blog can cause you to lose a friend. Someone I had called a sister. She thinks I betrayed by her having this person on my friends list and by not telling her about this blog. Its not that I was hiding it from her. anyway, to me a friend should not always question everything you do or try to control who you are friends with. A friend should not place an ultimatum on your friendship. I like different people for different reasons. My friends all know I am a Christian. Do I lessen my faith by having non christian friends? I try not to judge people. Not their lifestyles, not their religious beliefs. Is that wrong? I am sure just by writing this blog i am opening myself to more blogs written about what a Christian is, what they should do, who they should be friends with. This is a blog. Most of you I will never meet in person. So by being on my friends list I am saying, I either like your blog, I like what you have to say to me, I find you entertaining or you are one of friends. I would just like to say to this person, everything you are trying to point out to me could also apply to you. Think about it.

posted on Feb 7, 2008 6:50 PM ()

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Very well said! No blame, no shame, just speaking from the heart. Good for you.
comment by catdancer on Feb 16, 2008 7:49 PM ()
I really like and respect the way you did this post.I feel the exact same way.I just wasn't good at expressing it on my blog.I fowled that up,vlad,and everyone has commented on my blog about it.That was very thoughtful.I'm with Holly you are one of the nicest bloggers around.Always have been.Angie
comment by fobstateside on Feb 15, 2008 10:43 AM ()
To my dear dear friend, I think that as a Christian we are supposed to be friends with everyone. How else do they ever have an example of what a real Christian is supposed to be? I love you. You know that. It will be okay. People get in such a snit about stuff that is really inconsequential! ((((((hugs)))))))
comment by teacherwoman on Feb 8, 2008 11:18 AM ()
Perhaps you are better off without said person... I know it's hard to lose a friend but what kind of a friend tries to be THAT controlling??
comment by kristilyn3 on Feb 8, 2008 7:07 AM ()
i am sorry about what happened. but real friends don't get mad because of things like putting someone they don't like on your buddy list. i mean, heh? funny and sad at the same time.
comment by raragoe on Feb 8, 2008 1:49 AM ()
(((Hugs)))
comment by lynnie on Feb 8, 2008 12:00 AM ()
((hug))
comment by dkelly on Feb 7, 2008 10:57 PM ()
I am sorry this is happening to you. I too have been in situations quite similar. Like for instance every one of my friends that works in the business I do thinks I should not be Christian or a omg conservative but I am. You would think this is a little thing but I am a pariah in the industry because of both and have lost some very good friends and potential friends because of what I think and feel.

Always let your heart lead. It is not wrong. I hate to think of you being bullied. You are perhaps one of th nicest bloggers I have met.
comment by mmmhollywould on Feb 7, 2008 9:45 PM ()
I responded to someone else about this particular subject in the last couple weeks (I think it's only been that long). Friendship doesn't have any prerequisites and exists despite differences, not on the basis of a lack of differences. Someone who doesn't overlook differences but instead dwells on them is no friend (and not much fun to be around). Any friendship that comes with strings isn't really friendship. Sorry you're going through this, too, now.
comment by vladimir on Feb 7, 2008 8:51 PM ()
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