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I have been dreading getting all my paper work in order for a very long time and finally just sat down and sorted and filed it which is going to make my demise much easier for Ted and Linda. I have gobs of useless paper to have shredded now but it is sorted. What I have in my Safe Deposit box is not vital and Ellie has a key and instructions to empty it before the death notices come out. She will do that because her children will have Bobby's share. I prepaid our cremations several years ago. Our lawyer is one of Bobby's friends and I told Linda to just turn over everything to him. She has a tendency to micro manage and she lives in Tulsa so I think she will do this. Ted gets bogged down in detail so he would not be able to deal with any of this. Ted remarked that this is all very well unless something happens to Mark (our lawyer) but I refuse to even think about it. Ted took me out for lunch yesterday and I noticed that his hair is now completely white as is his mustache. Time does go marching on. It is very attractive. I have foolishly volunteered to help out at a garage sale on Friday. I am not putting anything in it but my friends are having it at an air conditioned rental house of theirs so it won't be too bad. They are exhausted. They bought the house at a tax sale and it was full of furniture which needs to be sold. Unfortunately it needed a lot and has been a money pit although they bought it for less than the price of a car. It is a mother/daughter project and it has been impossible for them to do all the necessary work and of course when you hire it done, it cuts down on profits. Primarily it was purchased as an investment for the daughter's retirement.

posted on Aug 8, 2019 4:06 AM ()


Great work! It's thoughtful of you to do it to you're liking now, saving your family the heartache of doing it during what will be one of the worst times of their lives.
comment by jerms on Aug 9, 2019 3:57 PM ()
I hope I have done enough. My next project is to leave Linda with a directory of helpful phone numbers.
reply by elderjane on Aug 10, 2019 7:10 AM ()
Well, our wills are in order, but the house is a mess. We don't have close relatives, so the professionals will have to deal with everything. I can't say this discussion has cheered me up. Call me "Miss let's not worry about things now".
comment by tealstar on Aug 8, 2019 12:39 PM ()
I put it off like forever but the reality of a 90th birthday has made it all a lot more of a priority.
reply by elderjane on Aug 9, 2019 3:38 AM ()
The best legacy you can leave is having things organized, especially business documents. With paperless business dealings, I worry about the people taking care of my affairs not finding my passwords so they can see what bills are due and pay them. I suppose one of those online password repositories is the answer - one password to bring up the log-in information for the rest of them, and write it on a piece of paper and put it in the bank box, but I haven't undertaken to set that up.

I was looking in Zillow at houses on your street, and it wasn't the one next to you, but some of the rooms looked like the ceilings were practically coming down and the drywall was trashed, but other rooms looked in okay condition with some furniture.
comment by traveltales on Aug 8, 2019 11:00 AM ()
There are several houses on silver meadow where the owners have been dead for years and the people who own them or should own them are doing nothing but letting them sit. It is not good for a house to go unattended for years in the heat and cold.
reply by elderjane on Aug 9, 2019 3:41 AM ()
That's smart. I like the idea of having things squared away to make it much easier on family members. When we buried my brother I decided a little later on I'd pay for a bronze marker for myself and the fee to add my ashes to my brother's grave, which is permitted for a family member. My other siblings seemed to just want their ashes scattered in nice places.
A garage sale indoors might be a nice thing. No one wants to browse outside in this heat.
comment by drmaus on Aug 8, 2019 10:10 AM ()
Yes, it does make it much easier on family members to know where to look for things. It was smart of you to prepare. When I decided to pre pay
our cremations some people thought it was silly but it gave me a measure of peace of mind.
reply by elderjane on Aug 9, 2019 3:45 AM ()
Good for you. That is a hard task! I haven’t even thought about any of that yet but we should.
comment by kristilyn3 on Aug 8, 2019 4:35 AM ()
It is early days yet for you and your family. BTW did you buy a place at the lake or just rent one for vacation? the pictures are wonderful and the kids seem to be having a ball.
reply by elderjane on Aug 9, 2019 3:48 AM ()

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