While my son was here we talked a little but only a little. He clings to the firm belief that I "used him as a pawn against his father." The only thing I ever asked his father for was child support. For whatever reason, he needs to cling to a reason to resent/blame me.

For the past ten years, I sent my daughter-in-law birthday, Christmas and Mother's Day cards and gifts. She has never so much as acknowledged these cards and gifts, never mind saying thank you or reciprocating. I asked her why, and she said they have a system and it is Micheal's responsibility to deal with his family and she deals with hers. Micheal hates talking on the phone, does not return calls and does not respond to emails. She also said their only interest in a relationship with me is as the children's grandmother. The boys are too young to call- my DIL refuses any direct contact, and Micheal hates calling...so where does that leave me? I am confounded.

By the way, I sent him an email two days ago to which he has not yet responded.

I feel like such a whiner and I must admit to feeling angry when I look at my family relationships at sixty-something. I deserve better!