Dottie Riley


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AM I Asking for Trouble?


Several of you already saw this on FB. I made this meme using a six year old photo of my son and his wife when we visited Bethlehem, PA. No, I did not use their names and no faces are visible. I did not tag them in the photo, and as far as I know, neither follows my posts on FB. Even if they saw this, they would be hard pressed to criticize me. Like most artists and photographers, I use what images I have available to me and that is not something they can argue. By the way, that IS the reason I used this photo. At first I hesitated, but when I could find nothing more suitable, I went into my "what the heck" mode. Asking for trouble? Two days later I have not heard a word.

Speaking of FB, even when I send my DIL a Christmas Greeting or Mother's Day card on FB, she never acknowledges it. No 'Likes" - no comments. Nothing! No communication from her (or my son) whatsoever. Not even a pretense of civility. It's been like this for two years. The only reason I do not "Un-Friend" her is because that is the only place I can see/download photos of my grandsons. They have not sent me a photograph in years- not even school pictures.
I am over their hatefulness.

I am doing considerably better. The headaches are gone as are the back and neck aches and the bowel issues. I feel normal again! The nightmares are over too. My sleep patterns are not yet back to normal, but at least I am no longer bone-weary. I am actually getting things done again. Slowly, normality returns.

posted on July 20, 2014 9:36 PM ()


all the best good to see that your improving
comment by kevinshere on July 21, 2014 9:13 PM ()
I do feel better! Thank you!
reply by dragonflyby on July 22, 2014 1:07 PM ()
comment by jjoohhnn on July 21, 2014 7:13 PM ()
reply by dragonflyby on July 22, 2014 1:07 PM ()
That picture goes well with those words, even if someone didn't know the back story.
comment by troutbend on July 21, 2014 4:56 PM ()
I thought so, which is why I used it! I did everything possibly to obscure the identity of the location as well as the people in the photo by adding the vignette and the snow.
reply by dragonflyby on July 22, 2014 1:06 PM ()
I am so glad your physical symptoms have cleared up. It is hard to
close doors but sometimes we have to for our own sanity. I have made
lots of mistakes parenting but fortunately my children forgave them. It
takes a lot of love and forgiveness for a family to stay close. You
have made a good decision. Sometimes it takes surgery for healing to take
comment by elderjane on July 21, 2014 5:51 AM ()
Yes, it took me a few weeks, and I think it only took a few weeks because I already knew the truth in my heart. His trip to Florida simply confirmed it. It is like a slow death that finally arrived...
reply by dragonflyby on July 22, 2014 1:05 PM ()
It's good you are on your way back. I used to think my family immediate (parents, sister, b.i.l.) were my rock. After years of long-distance contact and occasional visits to Chicago (from New York), and then to Florida, we moved to Florida too. And my b.i.l.'s wish to control our every thought emerged. My husband, Ed, stopped all contact in 2004. I continued to see my sister, under the constant, watchful eye of b.i.l. so that I wouldn't poison her mind with my centrist ideas. Now that she is gone and, after a period of benign visits, he tore into me over a piece I wrote in the paper, I haven't been back. He's toxic. I am sorry. He was family for 65 years, and he has most of our family photos from our childhood. Nothing to be done. At least his son and I are okay, but he is on the other coast and is not a communicator.
comment by tealstar on July 21, 2014 5:18 AM ()
Family can be a blessing as well as thorns. No, none of us need toxic people in our lives! (...and, how dare he criticize your ideas and opinions??? You own those, not he!)
reply by dragonflyby on July 22, 2014 1:02 PM ()
comment by hobbie on July 21, 2014 4:21 AM ()

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