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Interesting Phone Call

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The two boys on the right are my sons, Michael and Tod. The two on the left are Kevin and Brian, my girlfriend's sons. The boys grew up together and remain friends to this day- except for Tod, of course, who is gone. They call each other 'brothers.' They were my neighbors in Pennsylvania and moved to Florida soon after we/my family moved here. Brian lived with us periodically over the years.

With all that has gone on with my oldest son, Michael, these past months/years, and with my youngest son gone, I was feeling pretty low. Last night, Brian called. We talked for a long time and I hung up feeling so much better. Brian said I influenced his life for the better and that he was grateful for my presence in his life. He said much more, and it is not the first time he said these things to me.

Tod also appreciated me. He would tell anyone who would listen what a wonderful mother I was. Only Michael thinks I am a worthless. I needed this conversation with Brian. I needed the validation; the reminder. It really helped to put things in perspective. I so appreciated this call! It came at a critical time.

By the way, between this and my last post, I guess you can tell that I don't care anymore if my honesty offends someone - especially not family members who 'stalk' me on these pages.



posted on July 8, 2014 8:41 AM ()

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You are first, Dottie. Always first in your own life. Remember that.
comment by jondude on July 10, 2014 5:49 AM ()
Thank you, Jon!
reply by dragonflyby on July 17, 2014 10:31 AM ()
I have a son who adopted my family, somehow he just moved in
comment by kevinshere on July 8, 2014 9:40 PM ()
He is a truly family member! He chose to be a part of your family.
reply by dragonflyby on July 17, 2014 10:32 AM ()
I'm so glad to hear it, Dottie.
comment by troutbend on July 8, 2014 6:34 PM ()
Family means a lot and those two boys are really family. I am so glad
you had this talk. Sadly, when Michael realizes how he has alienated
the one who loves him most, he will wake up and it will be too late to
make amends. His father really did a job on him. There is so little love
in this old world, you better latch on to all you can.
comment by elderjane on July 8, 2014 9:25 AM ()
Yes, they are family; Brian more so than Kevin. Kevin and Michael were closer in age and Kevin had/has his own issues. Kevin was supposed to be Tod's best man but then backed out in a huff two months before Tod's wedding and never even attended.Part of the reason Brian spent so much time at my house is because his older brother beat him mercilessly and made his life a living hell. Kevin was a bully and Michael bullied his little brother which helped forge a connection between the two older brothers.
reply by dragonflyby on July 8, 2014 11:45 AM ()
It is gratifying to have validation from someone who has been part of your past and knows all the players. I don't suppose he had any insights about how to get past the emotional barriers Michael has put up.
comment by tealstar on July 8, 2014 8:47 AM ()
Brian does not think that there is anything I can do to change Michael. Brian cannot remember a time that Michael has not resented and blamed me and Michael gets angry anytime someone points out that his version of reality is not the way it was.
reply by dragonflyby on July 8, 2014 11:38 AM ()

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