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Online Dating

I had a date a few weeks ago. It was the first real date I've had in nearly 20 years and the first time I've met someone from a dating site. There wasn't any spark, but I wouldn't mind going out with him again - I haven't had sparks on every first date I've had.
I also was emailing another man on the same site for a while. I had to block him from sending me any more emails because of his last one.
His last note to me was 7 paragraphs long with five of them numbered, meant to prove his accusation that I had made "many strange, childish and illogical comments & accusations" in my emails to him. Then he said, "I am not going to accuse you without reasons or logic, but can prove every word that I say, one by one here:" (Oh, good it makes me feel better knowing that he has proof.)
In paragraph 3, he said, "Now I see why your husband divorced you..." (Gee, I thought I divorced him. Glad we have that cleared up.)
He told me that "a real classy and educated lady never behaves the way you did." (Yup, you got me. I got my education by reading cereal boxes while being reared by feral pigs.)
I didn't intend to tell any of these men about my situation with my mom right away. I finally told him in order to explain why afternoons were all I have right now. He wrote back and said he hopes she gets better. I explained that one doesn't get better from Alzheimer's.

You'd think I had accused him of being an ax murderer by the way he reacted. Then he claimed he had only wished her the best. (Gee, my bad for reading his words instead of his mind.) Lots of people don't know much about the disease. Many don't know that's it's terminal.
Or perhaps it's a language issue - English is his second language. I shouldn't have mentioned that either - apparently I am "the only person who accused me for such an absurd things..." (Um, yeah, I can see that by the way you write.)
He ended with: "The way I see it, you have many problems... Believe me, I have never seen a woman with such a strange & illogical behaviors.." (I think I know why he's never had a relationship that lasted longer than 7 years as he wrote in his profile.)
I'm glad I never gave him my phone number. Talk about anger issues.
On the positive side, there are other men who are interesting, funny and want to meet me. I have told them I would like to get together after I return from my trip. This is going to be a lot of fun.

posted on July 22, 2013 11:46 AM ()

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BE doubly careful , weirdos are out there ,if you do get to meet some one make sure there are other people around
comment by kevinshere on July 23, 2013 12:56 AM ()
Yup, I met the first guy at a cafe in one of the local bookstores here. Don't plan to meet anyone after dark either. I always Google them if I'm interested. You can find out who they are, address, etc., even if it's just a cell phone.
reply by catdancer on July 23, 2013 8:28 AM ()
Be very, VERY careful!
comment by steeve on July 22, 2013 5:57 PM ()
Thanks Steve. I only meet them in public, mid afternoon. I don't give them my phone number or last name and I talk on the phone before meeting them.
reply by catdancer on July 22, 2013 6:15 PM ()
Donna and I met online. I think a year passed before we met in person, but it was worth the wait. We've been together going on 8 years, so meeting online can work.
comment by jjoohhnn on July 22, 2013 5:50 PM ()
I remember when you first wrote about her. I'm so glad it worked for you. I know some people who have met online.
reply by catdancer on July 22, 2013 6:14 PM ()
Online dating is a neon sign that reads FREAKS! Tried it during the divorce. Met two FREAKS. One still harasses me.
comment by jondude on July 22, 2013 5:06 PM ()
Sorry your experience was so negative. But jjoohhjohn found his Donna on line and he's happy, so it can happen, even to people we know.
reply by tealstar on July 23, 2013 5:05 AM ()
Well, I'm not giving out my number or last name. I met the first guy at a cafe in a local bookstore so lots of people around. I think I weeded out one weirdo!
reply by catdancer on July 22, 2013 6:13 PM ()
Your e mail pal sounds like a psycho looking for ways to be angry at women. I'm glad you are enjoying the process. So many do not. Keep us in the loop.
comment by tealstar on July 22, 2013 4:50 PM ()
Yes I think he's got anger issues. I'll have more to say about it later - probably after my trip.
reply by catdancer on July 22, 2013 6:12 PM ()
Except for the weirdos, it sounds like fun. Too bad hubby is such a party pooper.
comment by nittineedles on July 22, 2013 2:02 PM ()
I think it is fun. Too bad about your hubby.
reply by catdancer on July 22, 2013 6:11 PM ()

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